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WHAT'S THE BEST SOLUTION?
well i have been going out with this guy for eleven months and our relationship has been pretty good but only problem is i feel like i have gotten bored of him. i feel trapped cause he hates me partying hanging out with my guy friends etc. i feel like i cant have fun anymore and ive felt like that the past eleven months that we have been going out. and theres this other guy that ive liked for a reeeeeally long time.. longer than ive liked my current boyfriend. the guy ive liked for a long time is my type of guy. i have so much fun with him and i like him so much. i love the way he treats me its hard to resist him. but i jsut cant break up with my boyfriend. he would kill himself because he loves me so much. he is so serious about me.. he is erious about marraige with me in the future. he is already out of high school but problem is im still in hs. he is going to the army in a month and he told me not to break up with him cause he plans on marrying me when he comes back. he gave me so many expensive presents for xmas and if i broke up with him how big of a butt would i be?? i dont want to break his heart bcause he doesnt deserve it but i also dont think he deserves me. idk what to do cause i know id be happier without him but i sometimes have to ask yself if i really would be happy without him. idk what i should do.. what should i do?
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Well...First of All, you shouldn't be in a relationship w/ne1 who will kill themselves because they're so obsessed w/you. That's not healthy for neither one of you. Second, your happiness comes first! So...if that means being w/ the guy of ur dreams...THEN BE WITH HIM. Last, Your current boyfriend deserves someone who will love him back the way he loves you!
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You have to do what your heart tells you to do! Do you really want to be with him and if not then tell him because it is unfair on him if you are with him when you dont want to be. He might be heartbroken at first but just think really you are doing him a faver. Just explain to him that you do really like him but you think it would be better if you were just friends. As for the other guy who you like, if i were you then i would give it some time before you get with him.Hope i could help, good luck and merry christmas!:D
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This guy seems like he really likes you. Your love for him is dying though because you see another guy who seems more interesting. About marriage I say wait and go out with him a little longer because that seems pretty short to know everything to know about him. Talk to him about the trapping you in thing because thats not right, you have your own life too and he can't control you. You are not married to him now so he can't control you so basically talk to him about this and everything will be settled.
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In my opinion, if you are constantly thinking about him in negative ways he isn't the one for you. But you have to figure it out on your own. (Not trying to be rude) but we don't all have "fairy God mothers" that tell us what to do and how to do it right when we need help. My advice is, if he is being a birden explain to him that if you will continue dating he MUST accept the fact that you have your own life too and guy friends that won't be more than that. He has to accept that especially if he has girls that are friends too and expects you not to become angry with him if he has acted this way around you and your guy friends. As for marrying the man, everyone has doubts and that's nothing to be afraid of. But to me, 11 months is just too short to tell what kind of a person he is. I know you've known him for a very long time on many different levels but it depends if you are ready for the committment. Talk to him about how you're feeling. If he's sensable he will understand and wait for marriage if you are un-easy about this.
Hope I helped! <3
-Lauren
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This guy seems like such a sweet guy. It would be wrong for you to break up with him when he's so in love with you... but your feelings for him are dying, and he's trying to keep it alive.
This is a really messy situation. I think, though, you would miss this boyfriend when you break up with him, and only becoming tired of him because you're eyeing another guy that you think is more interesting. I think you should stick with your current boyfriend.
Talk to your boyfriend about the trapping thing though, because that;s really not right. Isn't it like the only thing about him that's imperfect? That he's too serious? Tell him to loosen up a bit and bring him to parties that you go to.
If you really think you can't handle being with your current boyfriend, you have to be honest. Tell him you know how much this relationship means to him, but that he's more like a friend or brother or whatever than a boyfriend. Tell him that with his charms, he'll get a better girl. Think about it really hard though, because you never know how much you'll miss something until it's gone.
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
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you have to be honest with yourself and to him. If he hates you doing all these things like getting jealous and pissed when you go out and party and hang out with your friends then he's trying to cut you off from your friends and thats never a good thing into a relationship. First its partying and male friends, what next? all your friends, your family? If he's trapping you, you need out. Usually when those kind of relationships continue, it just gets worse and worse. Hope I helped and I hope this works out for you. Have a merry christmas =]
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