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I dont know How to make friends,
I just- dont know how to make friends.i feel pathetic saying that,but really,its the truth. i have no idea how to start convos,act normal and just have fun and join in. no idea. and everyone seems to be so uncomfortable(sp) around me. i dont think im ugly..and i doubt that even matters. but i was kinda in this group and now im just there,i dont mean anything to them,only 2 i really talk to. its like if i left it wouldnt matter. i dont know how to open up,and i really need help, what can i do so nothing is akward?i really want friends who care. it seems so easy to everyone but me. i just feel like dont belong anywhere. i dont even know how to take the first step,if you've been through this,can you please help? i really appreciat it. i also need advice on being friendly and not makeing things to akward/makeing people feel uncomfortable,i love it when i make people smile,but it barely happens.please help & thanks.
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I think that if you join a club or something you like to do than you are bound to have to talk to people and Im sure thats what people will also talk to you. And the 2 you talk to they could introduce you to their friends i was in the same situation and i now have way more friends because they like to do what i do.
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Yeah i know exactly what you mean. I really don't know how to tell you what to do. Everyone has there one thing. All you have to do is find it. I can already tell your selfesteem isnt that high so you are quiet and think about what your gonna say way too much. Say the first thing that come to mind when around them I know its hard but if they act like your stupid laugh with them as if you don't care if they laugh at what you said, laugh it off and follow that with another covo subject. Relax and be yourself.
--Syd
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since ive always been a loud girl, not afraid to do anything ive never had this problem. but some of my best friends now were like that to me when we first met. the first thing you have to make sure of is that you dont try too hard to fit in. when ppl think you are pushing yourself on them, they wont want to hang out with you. just be cool and relaxed. if you see a group of girls that maybe are in your classes or in your lunch, be confident and go start a conversation. it can be silly such as did you catch what the math homework was? or something like that. they will answer and it could prob. start a nice conversation. but just because you talked to her/them once doesnt mean it makes you friends right away. just gradually wave hi in the halls or sit together at lunch. again, dont push yourself too quickly on them. good luck. and remember just stay calm and relaxed. oh! and one very important thing. ALWAYS BE YOURSELF. dnt EVER change for a group of people just because they are cool or popular. chances are, if they are not going to accept you for who you are then they arent much of friends. you will find friends that like you for who you are. dnt worry. they will come.
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When your with that group you were talkin about, you should just kinda follow their conversations first. Like if some girl says that a guy is hot or whatever you could be like, yeah he's hot but really shallow or something. You talk about guys, you'll have thier attention. As you get more comfortable with them, you can just start your own conversations, speak up and talk about something the other people seem to care about.
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i am in the same problem now a little, but im getting through it a little better.
all i do is like be loud and funny. making them laugh is the key.. like nonstop. tell them things that happened last night like there was a bug on my wall or i dont that was a bad example but just keep talking. im not gunna say just dont be shy, cause thats not something you can just do.. but try to feel comfortable around your friends.. cause like theyre your friends.
if you arent happy with the people you are in a group with now, then find some other people you can hang with. you can stay with them but find other people besides them.
i know this sounds like conceided, but like make them give you attention.. i dont know how to explain that but you can find a way.
i know this is a tough time.. i feel the same way so don't feel alone. i really hope i helped. i dont really know much to say since i am in the same position as you.
tell me what happens.. good luckk!
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