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best friends or not?
ok sorry in advance if this takes a while...
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ok so i was best friend with this girl all thru 7th grade (now im in 8th)...like really really close. long story short, we spent a little 2 much time together over the summer, started getting in a lot of fites, and basicly 1 day she decided she didnt want to be as close ne more. we never stopped completely being friends cause A. we go to the same camp and skool and B. we are in the same "group" of friends. obviously, we got in a big fite about it at first, and some aftershocks for the next month or so, but after a while we calmed down into like just ok-friends mode. well a few weeks ago she told me she missed me and i told her i missd her 2 so now we stuck on the label "best friends" for a few days. but it felt like it was just a label cuz nuthin rele changed so we kinda demoted ourselves bak down. now lately, neither of us has said n e thing, and maybe im just over-reacting, but it feels like we mite b getting closer. we (plus her boyfriend and another of her close friends) went to the movies yesterday, and today i called her and we talked about nuthin for the first time in gosh knows how long. i mean it was only for like 10 minutes, and it was a little strained at times, but it still happened.
now i really miss her, and have for the past few weeks. i dont want to like talk to her about it (as u can see our relationship is complicated enough as it is) so what do i do?
any help appreciated! thanks!
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i went through this my freshman year. i met this girl, we'll call her L. L and I did everything together. then, she started hanging out with other people, slowly forgetting about me. it hurt so much, but later on in the school year we talked about it. we still arn't as close as we were, soemtimes in a friendship you have to expierience the extreme best friendness and then the lowest not speaking faze, until you find where your most conftorble. i hope i could help
-jool
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Omgsh me and ou are going throw basically the same thing, i dident know what to do either, i think that you should just talk to her and tell her how you fell, spend some along time with her, i mean yall are in the 8th grade mabe she is just wanting to experiment with other ppl after all highschool isent that far away and one thing i have regreded sence highschool is letting all my friends go that i have been friends with sence god knows how long, so yeah i think yall need to spend a day at the mall or the movies have a little slumber party, just you and her.. dont let go of her youll never let that down if you do... best friends are hard to find these day...
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Even if you dont want to talk to her about it, you can always just be like.. "man remember when we did.. bablalba.. last summer" and bring up good times or inside jokes. Cause if she misses you as much, she might be thinking the same thing, or might be scared to get as close. Maybe ask to hang out with a group of people, or just you two. But try taking it slow first, if you jump back into hanging out everyday then you might repet this whole issue. This problem, I think, is one that you have to see where things are going and wait. Best of luck =)
Katie
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hey there hun,
okay listen these sort of things happen all the time. and i guarentee that somebody else is going through the same thing. if you guys got into a huge fight. and you guys can't work it out than thats when you should be asking stuff like this. but i see that you don't know what to do. what i think is that you shoudl talk to her , because you telling us is like talking behind her back. and if she found out she'd be even more pissed off.
i would say that you shoudl definetely talk to her about this.
♥ MandaLEe.
-hope i helped.
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ok...seeing as i've been through this myself,i think i can help u. i understand compleatley the way you feel about this..its a hard feeling,i know. the truth is, your doing the right thing.yes, your friend and you have a complicated relationship but you both obviously care enough about each other to stay in touch rather than just forget you guys were friends in the first place. talk to her,it may be weird but she'll more than likeley agree. if you truley are best friends at heart she'll understand what you have to say.the weirdness won't last much longer..i've been there beleive me. its great you guys are getting closer..now just keep hanging out and doing your thing and things will soon fall back into place. hope i helped!
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