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my female roommate in an all girls group home raped me, well idk if she really raped me. at first she did then i really liked it. what should i do. be mad or happy to have finally gotten laid.
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First, things done against your will are never a good thing, if only for the fact that it means you are not in control of your own situations. You should report your room mate to someone, so that she is unable to repeat this with someone else.
Now. As to the rest. Rape is rape, the definition is clear. However, your reaction to it is your own choice.
The rest of this is my pragmatic side speaking, its not a common view of the world, but it might help.
Many people would tell you you should be devastated, that you should seek therapy, that you should be angry and hurt and all that. I say, if you can avoid it, save yourself the trouble, and dont be too broken up about it. If you can take the perspective that "shit happens" then putting this behind you will be alot easier. Just learn from the experience.
And honestly. If you enjoyed it, then dont let it traumatize you. She is not absolved of the fact that you did not consent, and in the future just dont let someone use you. Dont let her use others either, because while you may not feel that violated, a different girl in your shoes might not be able to handle it as well as you can, and its not right to let this girl fuck someone else's life up.
Lastly, do not listen to "hatemylover" below. Loss of virginity involves consenting sex. Your first is the first you choose. Remember that if story time ever comes around.
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If your roommate had sex with you against your will, it was rape.
The body is designed to react to sexual stimulation - if you physically ended up liking her advances, this just means your body is working properly. It is possible to feel turned on but still be forced to have sex without your consent.
You need to speak with an adult who works at your group home. It's understandable that you are confused, but in reality it is unacceptable for anyone to force sexual advanes on you - and if it has happened to you, it might happen to someone else.
While the whole topic can be confusing, you need to try to sort out your head - was this against your will? Did you give her consent? Is there a possibility this will happen again? How would you feel if it did?
Best of luck.
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If you liked it then it's not rape.
So I don't really think it was rape.
You should just feel laid back about it..
Maybe you like her or something?
I'm pretty sure everything will be fine though.
I hope I helped. =]
♥ Jacky
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In your case I would put it down to experience. However, what if a guy had raped you and you liked that too? It puts a different perspective on things. Do you feel raped and abused? If you do perhaps you ought to report it to someone. You say though that you "really liked it" and unfortunately that will do you no good in a court of law.
I think that you need to have an honest talk with your roommate and get things sorted out. Tell her exactly how you feel now about the incident. You may also need to look at changing roommates if you think it could happen again.
Be honest with yourself and honest with her and maybe you could sort this out amicably. Good luck.
It is a difficult thing to answer because it is conflicting in that you were raped, but you then enjoyed it.
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