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Cutting herself
I have this really suicidal friend called jazz and she keeps cutting her wrists and trying to kill herself because she is depressed i have tryed to help her but she keeps making me feel depressed, i told her to go to the doctor she say no i say talk to school she say no so what do i do?
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I know exactly how you feel. When I was at school, I had a friend who cut her arms and legs (there was not one patch of undamaged skin on her forearms) and had tried to kill herself 4 or 5 times. I tried to help her. I tried to do everything I could to convince her to stop but she didn't listen.
Then she told me why she did it and she opened up to me and...well it's funny how easy depression is to spread and long story short, one day I tried to take a knife to my wrists too.
What I'm saying is that you may want to help her but it's very difficult to help someone who is set on harming themselves without getting emotionally in a similar state. You can't help her unless you can look after yourself at the same time and if you are starting to suffer from depression, now is the time to seek some sort of professional help for her. It's very hard to do because you will probably feel as though you are betraying her but in the long run, it's what she needs. I once had a friend who was bulimic and she swore me to secrecy but because I was worried, I told a teacher and that teacher told her Mum. She didn't speak to me for a while but eventually, she thanked me and said if I hadn't done something, she didn't know what it might have lead to.
The point is, some people aren't able to help themselves and that means you have to do some of the work for them. But that doesn't mean you shoulder the burden for them. Instead, try helping to change her outlook. Perhaps you could get her a book on positive thinking? Persuade her that even though it's hard, she needs to start enjoying life because otherwise, in years to come she will look back and feel as though she wasted them. Try to get her out and involved in life and remind her she needs to LIVE her life, rather than just be a spectator. I know it probably sounds like rubbish but doing just normal everday fun things are what turned my life around.
If that still doesn't work, you need to get her some help from a professional. I would recommend speaking with her parents or a teacher and letting them know the problem. I will warn you that she will be upset at you for talking to them but she will come to realise that you had to do it for her own good. Once she gets the help she needs, she'll be more able to accept that what you did was right.
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Ok go to a adult and tell them or give her this hotline number 1-800-suicide
P.s. I would do both
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Go to an adult in a position to help her right away. Talk to her parents or to a school counselor. Both would be great. You can get her to do anything, but the adults in her life can.
Most people who attempt suicide aren't really trying to kill themselves. They are trying to get help when they don't know how, and attention they feel they are lacking. But it is dangerous nonetheless. A lot of damage can be done, and sometimes death even though it is not really intended.
Oh, also, she doesn't realize that she doesn't really intend to kill herself. I know that doesn't make much sense. I've noticed that when I am in the worst of my depression, it is like I am another person. That person wants to die or disappear but the real me doesn't and is strong enough to keep that from happening. She has the same strong self, or she would be gone already. She needs help to find that self. Do whatever it takes to get her that help before she ends up in the ER or the morgue. I got lucky enough to just end up having my stomach pumped in the ER. Had I not called for help, I would probably not be around. But pills (my attempt) are a lot slower than blood loss (from cutting), so your friend needs help now. Paramedics may not be fast enough if it goes too far.
So, please talk to a school counselor and to her parents. Let them know how serious this is. Parents will often ignore the problem because they don't want things to be wrong with their kids. It isn't that they don't care so much as the idea scares them into inaction. This is why you need to talk not only to them, but to a counselor. Do that IMMEDIATELY. She won't help herself until the last moment, and that could be too late.
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true story (idk why i have so many depressing storys. my friend was cutting and i told their parents, they rushed her to the hospital, and it saved her life, please do the same for your friend, i know people who have committed suicide at my school, its not okay=[ rip<3
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Okay listen to me and listen carefully because this is a true story!!! My friend wrote me a note saying goodbye and that she was gonna commit suicide she told me not to do anything!!! Well i did I told the office since she wouldn't!!! She's alive and well now!!! Also another one of my friends started cutting her arms i didn't do anything at first but her attitude started to rub off on me and i tried to commit sucide!!! ( my best friend saved me!!!! Needless to say i turned us both into the office!!! So i think you should tell someone who could help her for her even if she says she wont talk to you again would you rather her be alive and ignoring you or dead and you NEVER seeing her again!!! I hope i helped and i hope your friend finds all the great things about life!!! Just remember to always smile whether your happy or not!!! I promise the happiness will rub off on you!!!
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i would tell her parents about it if they dont already know. cutting yourself isnt heathy. she may be mad at you for telling her parents but she will thank you in the long run. you could ask her parents to keep your name private and not let her know that your the one that told.
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honestly, i wuld tell someone. i think that right now it seems like a horrible thing to do, and she might get sooooooo mad at you, but when people do stuff like that, theres really no chance for keeping it a secret. if somethnig was to happen to her, you wuld feel horrible that you DIDNT say anything, am i right?
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Here's the reality of the situation: she's not actually trying to kill herself. If she were, she would have succeeded. Killing oneself is really very easy; all it takes is a rope and a hook. What she is seeking is attention, and she's probably getting it from you.
But you can't just walk away, or she may actually go through with it. Furthermore, if she keeps this up, she may accidentally succeed - or maim herself permanently in the attempt. What you need to do is go to her parents, right away, and tell them absolutely everything. If her parents are not a viable option for one reason or another, go to a school official. You may lose her as a friend, but that will happen anyway on the day that she cuts too deep.
This is not something that either of you should have to deal with alone. Since she will not seek help, you will need to do it for her. Confidentiality between friends is important, but her life is on the line, and it's time to intervene.
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Don't ask her for permission to get her help. Get help right away no matter what! Seek a counselor and tell him/her about the situation. Or go to an adult you trust for advice on what to do.
I know your friend does not want anyone to know about what she is doing, but wouldn't you want her to get help before she get's worse? I am pretty sure it's yes, since you care about her so much. Please get help, and from anyone you trust.
Please go to this link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
They give you centers and hotlines to use for your friend.
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