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Her mom died
Well, my best friend's mom just died today.
I don't know what to say or do?
I was going to make her a large card [although it might not help] to let her know I'm here.
Is there anything else I can do for her to keep her from falling apart?
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be there thats the best
cry with her, hug her
let her know you are there
tell her your fone is on
all night (and make sure it is)
this is horrible, i am so sorry
hugs and kisses,
duckie
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Just be there, if she needs to talk then listen, you dont need to give her much advice tward it, just having a friend to be there and listen to her and understand is what se needs.
Jess<3
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Comforting a grieving person entails offering support and allowing the person to go through whatever he or she is feeling.
STEP 1: Allow the person to talk about his grief and express his feelings. Listen without offering advice or interrupting.
STEP 2: Be patient with the grieving person's changeable moods. It's normal for someone who is grieving to alternate between anger, sadness, numbness and acceptance.
STEP 3: Give the person as much time as he needs to grieve. Telling him to 'get over it' or 'let it go' won't help him grieve any faster.
STEP 4: Ask the bereaved what you can do to help. Try not to get frustrated if he doesn't know what he needs.
STEP 5: Offer suggestions of what you could do to help. For example, does the grieving person need more space? Does he want you to be around more? Are there tasks or errands he needs done?
STEP 6: Show affection such as hugs or handholding if the bereaved seems receptive. If he seems uninterested in affection, try not to get irritated - this will pass with time.
STEP 7: Encourage the grieving person to join a grief support group. He can call his doctor for a referral or look in the community service section of the yellow pages for grief support services.
STEP 8: Urge the grieving person to get professional help if he's so depressed that he's unable to function day to day. Assist him in setting up an appointment with a doctor to discuss counseling or possible medication.
Tips & Warnings
There is no 'correct' amount of time to mourn a loss. The grieving period varies with the individual.
Be sensitive to significant dates such as birthdays, holidays and the anniversary of the death or loss; the grieving person may find these especially difficult times.
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yeah, that is a reallly tough situationa nd my best friend's dad died a few years ago and it was reallly hard for her. She still cries when she hears songs that remind her about him and stuff. It won't be easy for your frined to talk right now, so don't ask too many quesions. Just listen when she is ready to talk. I think the card will go well. and if you can make it to the wake and the funeral it would be nice of you to go. i realize that she may not invite you first but just tell her that you're always there for her not mattter what it is and you're readyy to talk when she is and that you love herrr:)
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Give her a big hug and just be there for her. Right now there will be a bunch of family around her (not that you shouldn't go to her now..DO!). Pretty soon though they will all go back to thier regular routine. That is when she is going to really need you a lot. Just listen to her,& let her cry on your shoulder. You don't have to say a thing. :)
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