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my bestfriend
im in a bad situation. see my bestfriend of about 2 or 3 years just told me alot about her life and there is some things that i should tell someone about..but i promised her i wouldnt and,her life just keeps getting worse and worse.I love her to death but i dont want to loose her as a friend if i tell someone.
what should i do?
age:13
female
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Don't be a snitch. If anyone is not going to be harmed by you keeping quiet, the best thing to do is keep a secret. Secretkeepers are rare, and for that reason they are treasured friends.
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These situations can be extremely tough, however you have to use your best judgement for what is right for your friend. How serious are this problems? Does it need adult intervention? Are things getting way worse? Personally, I think you should tell a trusted adult, if things are truly wrong. I know you don't want to lose your friend, but in the end your friend will thank you. Think about it this way: You are saving your friend from what she is going through. If you love her to death, you wouldn't want her going through this pain she has been induring.
Also: Try talking to your friend. Show her your concern about the situation. Maybe she will realize she needs to speak up.
Hope this helps and if you ever need to talk, I'm here for you.
<3, cindy
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aww. Considering you won't even say what she said, I think it's probally pretty bad. I should tell you to tell a parent/teacher but the truth is if you do that she'll lose your trust and your friendship. I would invite her over and just try talking to her. The best thing you can do as a friend is to just listen to her and be there. Hope I helped:)
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omg wow, this is just like my situation. im 14 and i have been good freinds with this girl for about a year , and she is doing a lot of bad stuff that is making her life go down the drain. I keep telling her to stop doing all of this because shes hurting herself but she wont listen and sooner or later your best friend's parents will find out, trust me, because thats what happend to my best friend. so i would talk to her and tell her she needs to stop. and if it doesnt work , talk to your mom or dad or gardian and tell them about your best friend, that what i did and my mom understood , she told me to tell her if she every needs to talk to my mom about anything then my mom would be glad to help. please trust me, your friend needs someone to talk to , if she doesnt, it will get worse.
I hope i gave you good advise. :)
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If any of these things you feel like telling someone about is going to put your friend or anyone else in danger you should tell.
Don't just tell another friend because that is how rumors can start. Go to the school counsiler or a teacher you are close to.
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It really depends on what is going on in her life.
If it is something that would be harmful to her then
better to tell than let her come to harm. You would never forgive yourself if something happened to her.
So if it is something like that, consider her telling you as a cry for help. Tell.
She may be mad for a while but she will get over it once she is helped and realizes you only did what was best for her. :)
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