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Jealousy and Wrath
I'm so jealous of my friends. Whenever they talk about going to parties or their sexual experiences I just can't stand it. It makes me so angry. I've never done any of the things they've done (I realize some of those things are lies, but they all aren't. Especially if they can back up they're story.) Even things as simple as going on a date. I've never had a date or a kiss or anything. I've never been invited to a party. I've never done anything worthy enough to tell a story about. Unless you count "you had to be there" stories, which I don't. And it gets so bad that I get pissed off at them and I can't even be around them any more. So my question is: How do I get past my jealousy? How do I get rid of it?
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i'm assuming your friends are guys...if they arent this isnt going to help. guys like that are really immature...they're so insecure that they need to brag about all the stuff that they've done to someone just to feel great about themselves. its stupid. feel proud of yourself for not ever having to be in a compromising situation like i bet some of your friends have. also, you could just try asking your friends to not talk about that sort of stuff around you. if that doesnt work, try to tactfully change the subject to something more comfortable.
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My friends do this to me sometimes too. They explain how they made out with somebody this weekend or something like that, and I too, get jealous, but I also think: "Well, whenever I get my first kiss it'll be good and I won't be gnawing off people's faces." Most people treat sex and kissing or something like it's just something to do over the weekdn for fun, but I think differently. I think it's with somebody special, so when you get a girl, it'll be nice and great and then your guy friends'll probably be jealous YOU got a great girl, and they just got parties.
Speaking of the parties, ask them if you can come along sometime to the next one. I'm sure they're not going to care if you invite yourself. It's a party! The more the merrier, eh? And just go around socializing and having a blast and get to know more people so then sooner or later, you'll be starting to get invites from more people, and not just inviting yourself. And I'm sure your friends'll let you go ; I mean, they are your friends, after all.
But if you still continue to be jealous, you just have to think of the things that you're better at than THEM wether it be school, sports, whatever. And just keep thinking that and slowly the jealousy might start to go away. Sometimes whenever I'm jealous, I just start thinking of what I said before or I just start looking at somebody or think of something else to get what they said off of my mind, and it usually works.
But I seriously suggest just going out, socializing with people, inviting yourself to the party along with your friends and just hang out and have an amazing time. Then you'll sooner or later have a thousands story to tell, too.
I hope I helped.
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You distract yourself by doing something new, volunteering or joining a club. Eventually you'll meet more people, become more social and have more fun.
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Aw babe get out have some fun do the things they do
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get new friends that share interests as you do that way you dont have to be annoyed and everything
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make them shutup and look bad by saying something that will make them realize having sex and drinking alcohol is gay
srry i couldnt help much but i hope u understand! bye!
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