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i feel so bad....
14/f
ill just flat out say it. i cheated on my boyfriend. but here's the situation:
my boyfriend of 3 months and i are not allowed to see eachother at the moment. lets call him ian. he is 17 and i am 14. my mother doesnt approve, so we cant see eachother. before this mess started happening, we were having sex. dont prejudge us. back then we were both completely in love with eachother. now all we do is argue yet we're still together.
well i am in high school and he graduated last year. i met this one guy who i really liked. lets call him mike. mike and i kinda got caught up in the moment last night and had sex together.
right now i feel so bad about cheating on ian cuz i know he'll never forgive me. and i truely do love him. when we're together, its the best feeling in the world.
but my problem is, what should i do? i dont want to break up with ian and i dont want to tell him but i feel so bad. please dont call me a slut or a whore. please give me actual advice, i need it.
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You NEED to tell him. Do you want your relationship with Ian to be based on a lie from this point on? Relationships cannot function properly without trust, honesty, & respect. You took advantage of his trust & disrespected him by cheating on him. If there's going to be any chance of salvaging your relationship, you need to step up & act like an adult & tell him what happened. It's not fair to hide it from him.
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Honestly I probably wouldn`t tell "Ian" if I was in your place, but it`s very bad to lie especially about these things. Just see how it works out with Ian and if all is well and you don`t feel guilty or anything, then don`t tell him. This may sound very stupid, but that`s probably what I would do.
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Cheating is not the best thing in the world.
It sucks when shit gets around because then girls and guys call you sluts and hoes.
Boys are only gunna wanna get wit you because they may think that you're easy to jump in the bedd.
If you were really inLOVE wit him you wouldn't have done that. Maybe you think you are, but you're nott.
If you really do love him,
if you believe then prove it.
Be commited.
Idk if you should tell him,
but then if other people hear it,
he wouldn't wanna hear it from someone else other than you.
You know?
But girll,
you need to choose.
forreal. you do.
Is it gunna be this boys that you loved for 3 months or some other guy that you may only have slight strong feelings for?
Which is mr. right NOW?
yu gotta pick,
only one.
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I have some good answers.So try to tell him that you don't want to make him fell like you used him but don't just say you cheated on him but you shuold try to tell him.You could say i am sorry but i sleep with someone else but I still love you.I am not saying it will work but at least you have someone else to love.JOKING at least you tried to reason with him and tell him the truth and if he breaks up with you I gues it was not ment to be.well,you still have your dignatiy but not your virgentiy!!!LOL!!!!!:)
ok people my friend destiny anserwed this not me.i dont ansewer pplz questions this shity.
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when i cheated on my boyfriend, the first thing i did was be honest with him. i wanted him to find out from me, instead of someone else. luckily, he wasn't as upset as i suspected. he was angry at me, but he liked the fact that i told him. i let him know that it was by accident & i don't want to lose him. that i still wanted to be with him, and i tried everything to make sure he understood how sorry i was, maybe, just maybe your boyfriend will be just as understanding. but either way, sweetheart, you might want to tell him. you wouldn't want a rumor going around & him finding out from someone else.
i really hope i helped..
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You have to be honest with your boyfriend. I'm sure this is probably the advice everyone is giving you, but take that as a sign and use it. A good relationship is built on trust, and if you've betrayed that trust in any way, it may be hard for you to gain it back.
You can't be sure if he will forgive you, but you don't have many other choices but to tell him. What you did was wrong, and you have to own up to it. Otherwise your consious will eat you away. I'm pretty sure that isn't spelled right, but you get what i'm saying. I'm a lousy speller.
But anyways, I can't say that he will forgive you, because all people are different. I would probably forgive my boyfriend if the circumstances were the same, but I would probably never forget, and your boyfriend probably won't either.
In general, you need to flat out apologize, explain the situation, and then try to fix it. If you love him, and he loves you, then you should be ok. If not, then you will just have to learn to forgive yourself. And in time, he will also.
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Now, I know that nobody can tell you how you feel about a person but I do know that if you TRULY were in love with someone, you could never cheat on that person or do anything to hurt them. What you have for Ian is lust. I've been through it, we all have. I don't think you're a slut, everyone has sex.. It's normal. If you want to be with Ian, you need to be honest. What's a relationship without honesty? Talk to him face to face. You don't want to lose someone so wonderful.
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tell ian the truth and that you're extreemly sorry and didn't know what you were doing, tell him it will never happen again. tell mike that it was a mistake and that u 2 never should have done it. ian will find out sooner or later, better find out by you then by his friend or worse: mike
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