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hey my name is ellen and my son justin who is 19 years old and he is teaching sunday school at church,but I just found out he he and his girlfriend tessa had unprotected sex about a month ago and there was a big hickey on his neck what should I do?
I want to help me so so bad but when I confronted him about he got mad at me and now he won't speak to please help me help my son thankyou iam really worried.
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well never do that when and if he is ready he will confront to you.
but by you doing it first BIG mistake he needs privacy and you should let him have that
i'm sure your son is a great guy but you need to let some things go.
-KikiJ
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Hello Ellen,
Your son probably appears angry with you because he is embarrassed. I do not know many 19 year old males that will discuss personal matters such as "sex" with their Mothers. You did nothing to cause this behavior in your son, and it sounds as if you certainly wouldn't condone such behavior. It is normal to be worried as a Mom, but in reality the situation is out of your control. Just let your son know that you love him no matter what, and pray about it and let it go. If the girl becomes pregnant, you can choose to help or not, but really the bottom line is they will have to deal with it. You have a choice.
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Your son is 19 years old meaning he is an adult. Yes you can tell him the dangers of having unprotected sex but he is old enough to make his own decisions in life and he probly will even if you tell him hes doing wrong or if you ask him to stop. Obviously he is a strong believery in god and your not supposed to have sex till marriage but that doesnt mean he doesnt believe. Im sure that your son and his girlfriend have talked this over alot before having sex. If you worried just about him having unprotected sex simply ask him to use a condom. But remember he is an adult. You shouldnt give up because of this one decision if he ever needs help down the road be there for him.
kim:)
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i don't quite understand the problem. your son had unprotected sex... ok. you know he did it once, but there nothing you can do about it now. if you think he might still be having unprotected sex, you can get some condoms and safe sex brochures to put in his bathroom (i heard parents sometimes do that when they find out that their 14-year old teens are having sex). a hickey... well, i can see how that might be a little bit embarassing for a sunday school teacher. if he's worried about what others think of him, he'll do something to cover it up.
but really, your son is not doing anything wrong or unusual, i don't see why you're so worried. of course he'll get mad if you start confronting him about things which he's old enough to handle himself.
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chances are, that the reason hes acting this way is becuase he knows that what he did was wrong. if he felt that it was right of him to do it, then he wuldnt have a problem talking to you about it. i would more than likely have the church reconsider his teaching sunday school, though; for reasons realated to what hes done.
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Your son is 19, and is fully capable to make his own decisions, and to think for himself. He's old enough to do these things on his own, and there's things you just can't tell him to do anymore. I realize you care about your son, but I'm sure he knows all the consequences & things about having unprotected sex, and I'm sure him and his girlfriend discussed it. Don't be worried about your soon, he's an adult. No longer a minor. I can understand if he was a young kid, like 16. I'm not saying 19 isn't young, but 19 year olds are much wiser than 16 year olds. Anyways, don't bother him about it. The less you speak of it, the more he'll come around. He probably just thinks that you're babying him because of it, and he doesn't want to be babied, he wants to be treated like the adult he is.
♥TiNA
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He's nineteen years old & fully capable of making his own decisions. You can't keep him from having sex, but you can encourage him to use protection. Remind him of all the risks he's taking when he has unprotected sex.
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