Question Posted Thursday September 7 2006, 5:16 am
I have always heard opposites attract but is this true? And do relationships between very different people often work out? What should you be careful of?
I have felt VERY comfortable being friends with this guy, Nick, since we met this summer. We hung out a lot and he is SO nice to be and we have gotten along amazingly. Since, one night, we hung out until 8:30 AM, we know eachother quite well. We sit beside eachother in one class and possibly will in more. I have recently realized I like him as more than a friend but I am wondering if it would ever work out between us. We are both 15 by the way.
Nick - stoner, pretty low grades, eyebrow/nipple piercing, VERY ugly in a cute way (lol), nice, the type of guy who always calls just to talk, funny
Me - the 'rich mean girl', popular, 'pretty', 4.0 GPA, sort of nice, sort of funny, terrible luck with guys, doesn't do drugs, drinks (not often), only piercing is belly button, kind of stuck up I guess
We have COMPLETELY different lifestyles. However, this summer I hung out with his friends a lot and that is how I met him. Could this ever work out between us? We have never talked about dating or anything, yet.
People who tend to not get good grades, have piercings, do drugs and get high are people who think very low of themselves. You may think that this won't effect you now, but it WILL if you get serious with him and have a real relationship. Doing drugs and all of that ruins relationships. People who do drugs make it their lives. They'll pick drugs over anything else. And if you think that you're different and you'll have him 'whipped' that's very naiive and you should forget about that.
You are a pretty girl who gets great grades. Why would you want to sink that low to a guy who gets stoned and looks ugly? If he's ugly on the outside, then theres nothing left because hes not much inside either.
I know you're really into this guy and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but it's my honest point of view and I think you should know.
Robby001 answered Thursday September 7 2006, 6:58 pm: The thing is in school, there are of course the clicks and all the groups that go with them. When you are no longer in school these groups and classes "Preps, Jocks, stoners" no longer apply that much. People then base things on the person themselves. Take a chance; you never know it could be for the best. [ Robby001's advice column | Ask Robby001 A Question ]
bAhAmAmA0250 answered Thursday September 7 2006, 6:42 pm: I understand what you mean by the ugly in a cute way cuz yesterday i was describing these guys i met as them to be "dorky but they're adorable"
Me and my bf are very very different.
He's Life smart, but not school smart, Brand named clothes-everything, Drives a SUV, like rock music, not very responsible, in college, shy, loves sports, interest is hockey and cars, and tall.
Me on the other hand,, I'm school smart, but not life smart, Brand named clothes but not from head to toe, likes rap, very responsible, in highschool, spunky, hate sports, interest is fashion and shopping, and short.
So as you can see we're very different. But we yet make the perfect match and on sept. 24th we will be going out for 17 months. So thats a year and 5 months. We are very opposite, but we some how keep eachother smiling, laughing, and still love eachother. You never know until you try, you dont have to stay with him if you dont like him, just give it a shot you never know if you dont like something until you try and i think you'd regret something more if you didnt try it verses if you did. I hope I helped and I hope I make and made perfect sense, if i came off a lil foggy and unclear lemme know. Hope i helped!
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