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Well, you see, I have a really messed up mom. She tries to make me and my sister hate my dad. They are divorced. And she is making are lives suck because she wants to make my dad mad. I think she smokes, but she supposedly quit like 2 years ago and shes been smoking behind our backs. And I have no idea what I should do.
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Hey. It sounds like your mom is really angry and upset with your dad but your right, he is your dad. But I don't think your mom is messed up either she is really just hurting inside and this helps her cope. Talk to your mom about what she's doing and tell her that it upsets you when she talks about your dad that way just like if it was the other way around. Don't acuse her or act mad because that will just make her feel really bad so just talk. About the smoking. She is probably doing it behind your backs because she really cares about your opinions. I would also confront her about this but only if you have evidence. Just say mom I know you're smoking and it's really upsetting me and I love you so much so this is why I'm telling you. Smoking will make you sick. Try to get her some help and she may protest but it will be better for all of you in the long run :). I hope this helps even if only a little and please give some feedback.
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Well Im assuming that youre old enough to make your own decisions. Some parents when they get divorced try to make the kids hate the other parent, which isnt right. Simply tell your mom that hes your father and you dont appreciate what shes trying to do. Tell her that youd like to make your own opinions of your father and dont want their opinions of each other to interfere with yours. As for the smoking thing, honestly, thats her business. She's old enough to do so, and whether or not you like it, she will most likely do it anyways. If it really bothers you though, you can talk to her about it and say, "mom, I think you have been smoking, and i was wondering if maybe youre doing it because youre stressed or something" Then proceed with, "It really botheres me that you do, there is other alternatives to stress than smoking"
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tell your dad what shes trying to do is you have a councler tell her. otherwise just talk to your mom. or some other relative or friend u trust.
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All you can do is talk to your mom. Talk to her about your living situation, and why she wants to make you and your sister hate your dad. Have a real heart-to-heart with her, you know? Same with the smoking thing. Try to catch her smoking, so that you have some proof, then talk to her about it. There's really nothing you can do, it's your mom's choice.
If talking to your mom doesn't work, confide in a trusted adult, like a guidance counselor, and they'll help you.
I hope I helped. <3
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You reallyy need to have a sit-down with your mom and talk to her. Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable when she tries to make you try to dislike your dad because even though she doesn't like him, doesn't mean you and your sister have to dislike him too. And the smoking problem is something you really have to talk to her about. I know that it's also really hard to confront your mom, of all people, that she has a problem. Let her know that you still love her but smoking isn't a good influence towards you and your sister and it's, of course, a really bad habit to get into because it's terrible for her body. Also let her know that you are there for her and you are just trying to help.
Hope i helped.
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