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17 yr old female.. body & fashion
My 17 year old is 5'6" and weighs over 200 lbs.
She also has a very large bust and upper body--such as abdominal fat. I have tried everything to get her to diet & exercise, and our house is full of nutritional food. She has been to the Dr for this also, but chooses not to take an active roll in her health.
She says she is happy the way she is. She buys expensive clothes, but they do not fit right. For example today she had a sports bra on and she was litterly hanging out--and it was more noticable because she was wearing a skin tight t-shirt. She also wears low wasted pants, and either her crack is showing or she is walking around hanging on to her pants.
I have tried to take her shopping, I have bought her clothes, I have showed her pictures of plus size models, but she refuses to have any part of it. I have never intended to hurt her feelings, but the bottom line is I hate to have people gawking and making fun of her. She says "I don't care what they think, why do you?" I have tried to tell her she will get along in the working world better if she dresses to suit her body style, but of course she doesn't listen.
Any suggestions on how to help her either lose weight or dress better?
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Oh dear, you do sound as though you have problems!
There's not a whole lot you can do now she's 17 and mobile. At that age most young people think they know everything and their parents are so behind times they practically live in caves. Luckily by the time they are in their early twenties they start to realise that actually they're not old enough to know as much as they think they do, and start to listen to mum again.
The only suggestion I can offer, as you cannot forcibly make her wear clothes that will flatter her figure, is a bit drastic but may work.
Take some photo's of her, the worse they make her look the better, and put them all over the house. Especially on the fridge and food cupboards.
Whatever happens I wish you the best of luck, teens are always difficult to deal with and parents need nerves of steel for a few years.
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i think you should take all the junk food and junk food sources out of the house and restore it with heathly food and with nothing else in the house but healtly food she can't eat nothing but heathly food and she will eventuly loose weight
giver19
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i was walking in my town mall today and saw this really cute store for more plus sized women maybe your daughter would like these clothes and they might also fit better. the site for this store is:
www.torrid.com
for the losing weight part, i have this great workout DVD called Turbo Jam and it works wonders while also being fun. its more like dancing than excersizing. you do the DVD with her to get her motivated!
hope this will help!
<3kristi
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hey, ask her doctor to explain to her the heath risks of being 200 pounds at such a young age. also let her waer the stle clothes that she wants but just get bigger sizes for her. also if she has any friends that are the same size at her, maybe ask them or there parents for tips.
-caitt♥
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It seems like your fighting a losing battle. If she just doesnt want to listen, then there's not much you can do, except maybe go buy her some of the jeans she normally wears (lowrise) and get them a size larger. And MAYBE she'll wear em'. Also, get her some cute bras in a bigger cup size and some shirts with cute sayings on them, also a size larger. Have them layin on her bed for her when she gets home (It'll be a nice suprise and maybe she'll find a couple thigns shes willing to wear out of what you picked out. (Save the reciepts :) Also, I doubt ppl are making fun of her, though she is 200 lbs, she is also 5"6 so it even it's self out. I'm only 5 ft tall and I weigh 168 and it LOOKS like I weigh 200 because I am so short. no one has ever gawked or made fun of me (I'm an adult) Yes, she does need to lose weight but there is nothing that you can do to make her if she just doesn't want too. Also, not saying you do this, but don't tell her she's FAT, or will never get a man or everyone's laughing at her or stuff like that. Those comments don't help and only bring on even worser eating habits.
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you have to find out and tell her about all the health problems she can face being 200 pounds at only 17. if she doesnt take notice about her health she can end up fatter and it can lead her into early death. tell her doctor to help her find a diet she can stick to. now if she tries to leave the house in something that looks trashy on her but good on a skinnier person tell her to change. she might think you're treating her like a little kid but she needs to know what she looks good wearing and what she looks bad wearing. not for other people but for herself.she will be happy looking better and the fact that other people will like that is a bonus. thats why they have all those shows on the style channel on peole who dress poorly and get makeovers and they always feel better after, and so do the people who have to look at them.
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