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what should i do
okay i'm 14 years old and my dad has been in jail for about 7 years because he almost shot a guy and about 3 weeks ago i wrote him a letter and now he wants me to write him more and come see him in september and im not sure what i should do because this subject is really hard for me and im not really ready to see him yet but my grandparents keep pressuring me to see him and i feel bad about not seeing him because he's my dad and he probably wants to see me really bad i just dont know what to do because i dont want to hurt anyones feelings but im also not ready to see him yet
what do you guys think i should do ?
thanks
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I would write to him so that you can try to get to know him. Dont worry about what your grandparents want. Worry about yourself. You do what makes you the most comfortable. (It will probably be really hard to go visit him but I suspect that after it is over you will feel better)
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well,i think you should see your dad because he is your dad and they dont live forever and yes he could have done that but he still is your dad!well i hope i have helped a bit=)Amber
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wow my dad has been in jail my whole life and so i never really got to know him...he is out now but still i dont see him.....i would write to him otherwise your missing out on a whole lot! september is a month away so you have more time to think about it......if the time comes and you still do not want to see him well then that's is your decision but explain in a letter how your feeling if you were to see him and why your not ready yet....i sure do hope i helped!....if you need any more help leave one in my inbox...♥ terri
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I would keep right and wait till atleast the end of the month to make a decision.. because alot can change in that time. For all you know you could be the only reason he wants to keep leaving or his motivation to get out of jail.
Know one knows why you don't want to see him etc. so i can't persuade you either way. but i thought i would let that out
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Continue writing if that's what you feel is right. If you're not ready to see your dad, then explain that to him in a letter and let him know that you will come see him as soon as you feel the time is right.
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Dont see him... continue writing. Just prepare yourself for seeing him in the future, because you should go see him at some point in time. You just need to be ready to face him. Tell them all you want to wait to make the trip to visit. Your dad seems to be happy enough having you writing to him for awhile. He can wait for you a little longer. Hope i helped!
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If i were you I would continue to write. If you are not ready to see your dad yet, i wouldn't do it. Just explain to your grandparents and dad you are not really ready to see your dad yet, but you would like to continue writing. I hope i helped!
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I think you should write. He is still your dad.
As far as going to see him goes, if you aren't ready for it then don't do it. It would be hard enough to see him there if you wanted to go.
You really do need to write him and tell him you aren't ready to see him there. He will fell bad same as you do but I think he will also understand. Let him know that you will visit when you feel you can handle it.
As for grandparents, you explain to them you aren't ready to see your dad in that situation right now. Someday you might be but right now you just can't do it. Tell them until then you will write him. :)
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