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love and money
14 female. when ever i like a guy i tend to give or loan them money. most of the guys i liek are not trust worthy o i usuially never get my money back. everyone knwos that i ALWAY have cash on me i cant lie to them and say "sorry i dont have any money on me." I am afraid to ask them for the money back after i stop liking them, one because i am embarrasses and two:: because it has been so long that they have forgotten. during the last school year this one boy i was crushing on would ask me for a dollar every day for 3 or 4 months. i would say yes everyday and as a resuly gave him around 40 dollars and he never even liked me as more than a frined. i know the boys are jsut using me but i cant help my self. if anyone has any advice on how to stop or anthign to say to the boys who ask and try to use me i woudl greatly appreciate it!. thanks a million andone =)
haiely<3
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I would just not give any money. Leave it in a safe place at your house and remind yourself not to give it away.
To the boys who use you: Just ignore them. They arent worth it.
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well i honestly dont think you can get the money back from ALL of the guys youve ever liked dont EVER give ANYONE money again cuz this way they are not liking you for your personality they are liking you for your money!and one day when you really DONT have any money NOONE will be hanging out with you.next time a guy asks you for money say you dont have or you have but you need it for something!and start from the beginning of the new school year say no to ppl that ask you for money
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When someone, anyone, asks you for money, say no. You don't owe anyone an explanation. It's your money and unless they are starving on the streets, it is perfectly acceptable to say no. Just stop. I wouldn't bother to demand money from the people who have "forgotten" to pay you back- take it as a valuable lesson learned to not let anyone use you any longer. No boy is going to like you because you give them cash.
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haiely,
i had the same problem!! and i finally realized what am i thinking this isnt working! if they dont like you for who you are you dont need them! when they ask for money be like i have some money but im not going to give it away or say yes i do have money but im trying to save it up. lol or im not a dang ATM stop asking for money. if you like them then just talk to them, flirt get them to like you!! work your magic!! if they dont like you then screw them they dont diserve you, find someone who does!! i hope i helped!!
<3 Stacey
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Well it's not the best thing to give out money to every guy you like,unless you really trust him to pay you back. When you give guys money say "this isn't a give away it's a loan and i want u to pay me back." Some guys will say they will pay you back and never do and if that's the case then say your mom or dad yelled out you for giving out money so you can't anymore.Hope i helped =D
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Be assertive! Tell them if you hand them money they'll pay you back. But before you do, hand money to people that you can trust. Like your friends, or family. Don't give it out just to become cooler and be liked more. It's not the answer. So speak up for yourself and don't let people walk all over you.
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you should just stick up for yourself. you don't deserve people using you or just walking over you. it seems like your known for giving guys money that you like. its pointless to just give money to them if they don't like you more then a friend.
"fear is temporary - regret is forever" - live by that, because if your scared/afraid to ask them for your money back, your going to regret it in the end. do what you feel is right, because in the end, everything happens for a reason.
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Hi there. Well I know what you mean when you say it is hard to say no to them especially when you like them, but honey if you ever really want to know if they like "you" then you need to put your foot down on this. Tell them no and if you don't want to sound mean throw a joke in there and walk away with a smile, let them know you're more than money, besides guys like when a girl is witty and has a little attitute to them. If you really can't seem to say no, then forget what you think they know, and just tell them you don't have any money on you at the moment, who cares what they think how are they really going to know if you have it or not? Just be brave and assert yourself or it will only get worse as you get older, the older you are the more things you aquire that a scrub will try and get from you, ex. car, house the list goes on girl. Good luck!
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