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Blamed.
My parents blame me for everything.
Our cell phone bill was high, it wasn't my brothers' faults, it was automaticly mine.
My friend stole my camera before she moved, and has even told people, but it's still my fault its gone.
Its my fault my family has big money problems.
Its my fault my mom is fat.
I`m just a 13yr old girl, sometimes my parents can be so cool, but they`ll just snap and all the sudden I`m the target of their anger! What should I do?
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I think u should try talking to ur family. It mite help smooth things over for a while.
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u should probably talk to them about this and tell them how u feel.
u could set up a time every week to talk and make it a none judgemental circle where you can get your feelings out without being yelled at.
but first make sure that it's ok with ally your family.
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Hi, I have been a counsellor specializing with teens and families for over 12 years. This is a really commen thing, there are various solutions or tactics that you can try. First have a sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel, I have found that using a prop i.e. a stick or rock to hold so that only the person holding it can talk works well so that everyone gets heard. If talking is too hard write your parents a letter outlining how you feel and why you feel it.
It is not your fault that there are money problems, nor is it your fault that your mom is overweight but it is much easier for your parents to blame you then themselves, that way they don't have to change anything about themselves.
If none of this works I would suggest that you talk to an adult you trust maybe an aunt, uncle, grandparent or someone at school like a guidance counsellor.
Having been a 13 yr old girl who was often blamed for things I didn't do I can tell you that as much as this sucks now it will get better the most important thing for you to remember always is that these accusations are not true and that you are a good person who has worth.
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I think you should let them go and try not to let it get to you. I mean i can see why they target you. Teenage girls often go over their phone mins. and you could have gotten your camera back by calling your friends parents or what not. And teen girls often do strain on parents funds.. and trust me i would know
just try to ignore them. They are under just as much stress as they are puttin you under and they truely dont mean to make you feel bad. They just need to blow steam. Being a teen girl especially at your age is hard on everyone with hormones racing. What i would do is try to help your parents out and show them you don't mean harm and maybe next time they will think before you act. Maybe Cut back on your phone mins and use them only when you have free ones and maybe go walking with your mom in the park to help her lose weight!
For things to be better both sides need to be working together!
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