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boyfreind and pot
My boyfreind and I used to smoke together a lot. Like all the time and i didnt like it so i tried talking to him about it and all he said was "You think your better then me because I smoke" and i dont think that at all, i just want to have a normal, fun relationship w/out drugs. How do i get him to think more positivley??
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You cannot change someone who doesnt want to change nor help someone who doesnt want to be helped. i would just let him flow in his own direction and go on yours and see if that is a wake up call for him
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look im telling to even tho you love him a lot i would get away from the drugs....i had a bf once that did drugs...and lets just say one day whjen he was high he put me in a hosbital...so...im telling you to protect you get away from it....i hope this helps you...
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well, maybe try talking to him when your not around them or when hes on them. tell him that you dont feel right dating him because of the smoking thing. if he doesnt understand then maybe hes not the best boyfriend right now? you need to help him but not get him mad or anything. or rethink your relationship? dont do something just to make him happy its not worth it hope i helped
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You should tell him just that. Honestly, I think he'll quit on his own when he gets bored with it or wants to get a job. Tell him you don't think you are better and that he isn't less because he does. you could go 2 ways... let him smoke (meaning you dont have to..but he can) or make him pick between you and the pot. if he instantly pick the pot... he'll probably regret it later but it says a lot. do things where he can't smoke... invite him to do things and stuff to kinda get him away from it. anything else, let me know. <3
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Pot can not only be dangerous, it can completely change peoples opinions and personalities. You should tell your boyfriend that you think nothing of the sort, and just tell him exactly what you just said : " I just want to have a normal, fun relationship w/out drugs" Explain to him that plenty of couples get on just fine without having to use Pot. Of course he will probably keep on doing it without you, so you could try compromising and just ask him not to do it when he's around you.
Good luck hun!
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-michelle
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Smoking pot can really cause problems in relationships and as you can see they are now beginning between you and your boyfriend.
Usually when people start getting into drugs, that's just about all they care about. Getting high and finding out how to get more is all what really matters to them. Besides, he's probaby smoking pot with other people and you never know what he could be like around other people when he's high.
My point is that if you want to continue a relationship with this guy, then him smoking pot is something you'll be dealing with. The chances are very small that he'll ever quit because you want him to. And if you don't want to be in a relationship with drug use, I consider that a great reason to put an end to the relationship. Nobody should ever have to settle for less than what they are looking for in a relationship.
And I think that you shouldn't have to settle with this guy. You may feel very close to this guy, but if he's doing something that really effects and interferes with your feelings, then maybe it's time to think it over. Plus, he sounds touchy about the situation. You tried talking to him about this and he jumps at you and accuses you of thinking you're better than him? Should you really have to deal with that kind of behavior from a boyfriend?
The truth is that with this guy, you won't have just a normal fun relationship without drugs. Remember to think about yourself and your feelings in this relationship. If you're unhapy with the drugs, then you need to stand up for yourself and get out, find someone else who isn't into that kind of stuff and who has the kind of personality you like.
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