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penpal.. or fraud?
well, i registered as a user to a penpal website, where you can meet people from other countries. it has been great so far! i have more penpals than i wanted, all from different places. i just started worrying today about one of my penpals... his name is emmanuel, and he is from ghana, africa. i have been talking to him over email for maybe 2-3 weeks. i sent him some pictures of america, like places i've visited and sometimes pictures of me and my friends. i do that with my other penpals and they usually send some pictures themselves.
anyway, the most recent email he sent me (today) asked about a lot of personal information -- like what school i go to, he asked for a picture of my family, what my friends name is, he told me that he desperately wants me to visit him, and he even asked for my postal address. doesn't that sound a little fishy? i mean, i've asked some things about ghana and his culture, but not things like that. he told me in scattered emails that not many people in ghana speak english or even go to school, and i noticed that his english was rather good. i didn't ask him where he learned it from, assuming his mom/dad taught him.
then today, for the heck of it, i typed his full name in on the internet and a few links came up. i went to this one site and it said that he was a 23 year old that stole 2-point-something million cedis (african $) in rice and in 1997. it also said that he was in prison for 3 years. i started worrying over this because of past experiences with meeting people over the internet.
im not sure if i should email him anymore. what should i say to him if i do? what if his name is common in africa, like smith is a common last name in america?
i havent responded to that email he sent me regarding those questions. what should i do?
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you shouldnt reply to his emails anymore. It sounds to me like hes stalking you. Delete everything from him, and if he continues to try to contact you, then tell you parents. Do NOT send him your postal address. Even if what you found on the internet isnt him, its not worth taking a chance.
good luck!
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-michelle
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You should not respond to his emails. Delete him from your penpal list, whatever you need to do to lose contact with him. He sounds creepy and stalkerish. The best thing that you can do is not take any chances. Save yourself, and don't give him any of your personal information.
All the best.
♥ SiMA
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If I was you I would stop speaking to him he sound like a fraud. he can find who you are so dont talk to him.He can be a predator down there for all you know.so keep your eyes open and watch who you talk to.I hope this is halpful
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whoa, that's seriously freaky. STOP e-mailing him. on that penpal website, e-mail the person who runs the website and report that creepy guy. don't e-mail that creepy guy anymore and take any chances by giving out your friends names and your adress and stuff. good luck! xox melissa
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Stop emailing him!!!!! Thats the best thing you can do is block his email. He might try to rape or kill you if you give him any personal info that can link you to him. Hes probably involved in some bad things in Africa so don't get involved with him. Best thing would be to avoid him at all costs. You don't want to get into deep trouble.
<33 Summer
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stop e-mailing NOW! forget the questionable prison records, anyone who'd express interest in meeting a penpal after 2-3 weeks of e-mail contact is a freak who you don't need to be involved with. he's creepy, drop him.
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yeah deffinitally just stop talking to him.
dont risk anything NOT WORTH IT. and you really need to somehow tell the penpal web site place about him maybe get his removed from the program ionno cause if he is a weird as you think you wouldnt want this happening to someone eles.
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You should certainly not answer those questions. That is more then fishy, it's down right creepy.
I will be perfectly honest with you, although I would give him the benefit of the doubt and not accuse him of being a convict, if I where feelings as uncomfortable as you clearly are I would simply cut off contact with him and stop e-mailing. That is always an option if you aren't feeling safe communicating with him anymore.
If you do want to reply I'd just send him something like "I'm sorry. I don't give away those kind of details online." and then go on and talk about something else. Don't let there be any ifs ands or buts about it. Don't say "I don't give them to strangers" or "I don't know you well enough" make sure to say that you just do not do it, so he understands there is no chance he will get that kind of information out of you. If he persists or complains, I think you might want to stop writing to him.
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