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Bad Mother?
I went to a party the other night for Ash's birthday, with a bunch of our friends. Her mom took us all to the movie, while she said she'd be shopping. After the movie was over, she didn't answer any of her phones and we couldn't get ahold of her for an hour. It was 11 at night, in a bad bad part of town, 7 young girls, all alone. When Ash finally did get ahold of her mom, her mom cussed at her, and told her it was all her fault. She was on speaker so we heard every foul word of it. Her mom blamed us being left there for an hour alone on Ash, even though the mom decided to see a movie longer then ours and did not tell us.
Ash cried in the car ride back to her house, and her mom kept cussing at her, and blamming her. She yelled at her the whole ride home saying she was the cause of everything wrong, and that she was never right, and said that all of us were much better kids then she'd ever be.
Her mom is so unfair to her, everything is Ash's fault, even when her grandma passed away, Ash's mom blamed it all on her. Ash is sucha sweet girl, I don't want her mom to be so bad to her. Is it okay for a mom to cuss at a child, abandon them, and baiscly verbally abuse them?
What should I do? Ash can't take this anymore.
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♥ There isn't much you can do about this situation, but here are a few tips you can do to make Ash's life better with you. Because even though you have nothing to do with this she looks for advice through you on more occasions than her mom. You need to treat her with great respect. because obviously she isn't getting that from her mother. Friends can really change a persons life. that's why you need to really help her. she needs you and unless you and ash's mother are best friends i wouldnt want to talk to her until ash has. it's going to be difficult but stay with her and then things will get better. and if not tell an adult if things get out of hand.
-Cheyenne
♥ Help Ash more than anybody. Don't intrude on her mother, but help Ash to stand up for herself. If Ash is a minor it might be difficult but stand by her on everything.
-Molly
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Your friend shouldn't be treated that way at all!
You should talk to her, and tell her that mom's are mom's, or just pretty much tell her that she doesn't deserve this and go to a counsler to talk about it, and possibly keep it private.
I don't know if I helped much, but the best thing to do is talk to a counsler, and keep it annonymous.
Hope I helped. =]
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Dear Friend of Ash,
You could call Child Protective Services; 411 can give you the number for your area. If you have to leave a message, do so, and the CPS worker will call you back with some additional suggestions or resources. Or, have Ash speak with one of her school counselors, or Google "teen hotlines" -- most hotlines have 800 numbers and all conversations are confidential so Ash can remain anonymous, if she wants to.
Equally important, let Ash know that you are there for her. A close circle of friends can be a real emotional life line. That kind of support makes all the difference in the world to someone who's going through such a tough time. Ash is lucky to have a friend like you.
I wish you well,
Earth Mother
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if my mom treated me like that i would leave her, her mom sounds like w wicked BITCH
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Oh man, that is deffintly not good that her mom did that. In Ash's case, its good that her mom yelled at her in front of you girls, because now you all can try and help her. You probably know, that that isnt the first time her mom has said these things to her. A mom doesn't just burst out like that once. She's probably said those things to her before. Have Ash sleepover and let her know she needs to talk to someone about this before the situation becaomse worse. If she says she's scared to, you need to tell her she has the right to tell someone, no one should be treated like this. And don't be scared to, she might get upset, but all that matters is that she gets help, for her, and possibly even her mother. If that doesnt work, go to a guidence counselor at your school. Don't be afraid to. Let her know whats going on, and you cant help any further. The guidence counselor will be able to help out a lot. Hope I helped, best of luck to your friend.
-Brina
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