Hey everyone! This advice colum is being ran by two of the best advicenators ever...we just never tried our skills out till now! lol My name is Cheyenne and my cuzins name is Molly! Ask us anything!
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Just recently my girlfriend has left me to go back with her old boyfriend. I know that he abuses her phsyically and emotionally,and I treated her like gold. What should I do? and will she ever come back to me? (link)
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so this is probably one of the tuffffer questions. first off wen she left you that was her choice so don't be down on yourself for that.
second if he beats her and you know this for a fact you should tell somebody. i know that may have never occured to you as an option but there are programs that you can tell someone and remain anonymous. if you don't want to tell anybody(which it is realy up to you) talk to her
tell her how you truly feel. you should even talk to her about the situation. but if she isn't the kind of person to talk to about that then ignore it and substitute it with your feelings
lastly who knows if she will come back to you. if you play your cards right and choise your words wisley more than likely she will. don't change yourself for her though. if she isn't willing to except you than she isn't worth it. but remeber to not be sneeky behind her boyfriends back because that could be a terrible sight. remeber to be true to yourself!
♥Cheyenne
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I really like this guy and I wanna have sex with him, only, I'm a virgin. I don't know how or what it's like and I'm really nervous. Any advice or tips or could any of you girls tell me what it's like to be layed? Anything will help. Thanx
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well first off before you have sex with him answer these questions:
do you really love or just really like him?
are you ready to be a parent?
are you ready to commit?
is he the one you wanna share this with?
also think about the regrets of having sex unmarried and young. things like pregnacy which lead to money problems and difficult times with the family. you might as you get older regret having sex with someone you truly didn't love. think about all these things. don't settle for i like him and i'm ready to give it up. settle for i love him and he's the only one i want to give it to.
also if you must do it use a condom. i am really the type of person who is going to wait till married but some people aren't. see a gyno about birth control. talk to your parents about the possiblities.(you don't have to tell them your having sex but it might be easier for you to understand their points)
and if you need to talk to your friends because if they are true friends they will help you. if they aren't virgins they will give you tips that can be very useful.
make sure and ask him if he has any diseases or anything like that. after having sex check in with a gyno to discuss what happened as in if you have a disease because if found early enougha and treated properly you can survive STD's HIV's and other things of that matter♥
hope i helped
Cheyenne
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19/f
I had sex with my best friend (a guy) a little while ago. We both admited feelings for each other & have been a couple before, but things still aren't going anywhere even though it's what we both want. Help! (link)
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♥if you know you have feelings for him and he has feelings for you then talk to him. ask him if anything is wrong(but don't annoy him). make sure your both on the same page about where you want your relationship to go.
♥if your worried about what to say then start out the conversation with something your conforatble with. once that conversation evolves start to gradually change the subject. this gets you conforatble before jumping into things.
♥if this doesn't work you might just have to express once again your feelings for him. sometimes guys have the notion to think that once a girl says it to them there isn't any left after that. its sucks i know!
-Cheyenne
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13/f.
I met this guy in like beg of october last year at a campground ((family campground)) and we like have so much funn together and we like kissed and well i have been talking to him like online and over myspace ever since and in december he got a girlfriend, and this past weekend we both went camping again, ((he still has the same gf)) and well a few days before she went onto his myspace and was like 'back off he doesnt miss you' and all this shit, so once i got to the campground i tryed avoiding him but him and his friends approached me and my friend and you know he asked if we could like do stuff but keep it from his gf. and i was like yeah. so we like did, and he called me beautiful and told me he loved me more than his gf. and now i like cry everytime i even like think about him because i like him so much, and it scares me.
but i like almost never see him and i dont know how to get over him...
any suggestions?
PS- i will rate 5's to anyone that even tries (link)
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♥it's ok to be confused. it's ok to have feelings for him. it's ok to miss him, but do YOU think it's ok to let him cheat on her?
♥you may not like this girl, but put yourself in her position. Wouldn't you feel crapy if you knew? don't get a reputation like that. i'm sure your a great girl so don't ruin that
♥if you really want to be with him then you need to talk to him. tell him if he loves you than he should be with you and you only. if it was me i would give him two choices. 1...me. 2...her.
♥if you really love him like you say you do and he really loves you it shouldn't be a hard decision! think about what your doing and then revaluate!
-Cheyenne
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Ok well i have naturally wavey/curly/extrodinarily frizzy hair and i dunno what to do to take the frizz away other than just pplain strainging it.
Any ideas?
Thanks Becs (link)
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Well i use to have the same problem and it totaly sucks i know. Here is all I've got for you...
First off I don't suggest going to the barber shop yet. Try different items. My best item for this problem is...Bed Head HEADRUSH. You use it after you use your straightener. And after you get out of the shower you might want to comb your hair and then put a small amount of gel in it. I personaly like...Garnier Fructis Style WET SHINE (gel). I think it smells good and works great.
You could also try going to bed with your hair wet every night and put it in a pony tail for about a week. It's not really good for your hair but it can help depending on your hair texture.
Oh and if you are looking into using a straightner I suggest...Hot Tools (proffesional). Make sure if you do use a straightner it is ceramic.
I know you may not be looking for any straightner ideas, but if you use the straightner to much it can cause the friz.
I really hoped I helped. Good luck! Expierment with your hair
-Cheyenne
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I didn't know which catagory to put this in so I just placed it here...I'm 14/f and i feel everyday like i'm making everyone's life miserable. Everyone says I'm a crybaby and too dramatic and that no one wants to hang around with someone like me. I feel useless and I'm wondering if I should just quit...leave...whatever way you wanna put it. I just dont want to bug anyone anymore...that's my question. Should I quit?...plz and thnx (link)
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no u should never quit in anything never quit!!
-Molly
♥ Well first off hun you shouldn't quit. If you are having problems talk to your friends. They might be able to help you. If they are judging you because of this they may not be true friends.
♥ Don't hold in your feelings! Find ways to avoid crying though. Like cry if you need to but when you feel it coming try and think of better things. If that doesn't help through a party so you can have a good time. Your friends will be more likely to see past the crying.
♥ Last, but not least...don't change anything about you to make people like you.
-Cheyenne
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I went to a party the other night for Ash's birthday, with a bunch of our friends. Her mom took us all to the movie, while she said she'd be shopping. After the movie was over, she didn't answer any of her phones and we couldn't get ahold of her for an hour. It was 11 at night, in a bad bad part of town, 7 young girls, all alone. When Ash finally did get ahold of her mom, her mom cussed at her, and told her it was all her fault. She was on speaker so we heard every foul word of it. Her mom blamed us being left there for an hour alone on Ash, even though the mom decided to see a movie longer then ours and did not tell us.
Ash cried in the car ride back to her house, and her mom kept cussing at her, and blamming her. She yelled at her the whole ride home saying she was the cause of everything wrong, and that she was never right, and said that all of us were much better kids then she'd ever be.
Her mom is so unfair to her, everything is Ash's fault, even when her grandma passed away, Ash's mom blamed it all on her. Ash is sucha sweet girl, I don't want her mom to be so bad to her. Is it okay for a mom to cuss at a child, abandon them, and baiscly verbally abuse them?
What should I do? Ash can't take this anymore. (link)
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♥ There isn't much you can do about this situation, but here are a few tips you can do to make Ash's life better with you. Because even though you have nothing to do with this she looks for advice through you on more occasions than her mom. You need to treat her with great respect. because obviously she isn't getting that from her mother. Friends can really change a persons life. that's why you need to really help her. she needs you and unless you and ash's mother are best friends i wouldnt want to talk to her until ash has. it's going to be difficult but stay with her and then things will get better. and if not tell an adult if things get out of hand.
-Cheyenne
♥ Help Ash more than anybody. Don't intrude on her mother, but help Ash to stand up for herself. If Ash is a minor it might be difficult but stand by her on everything.
-Molly
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