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my mother
A little background information. My mother is on the pill(not for birthcontrol tho, other reasons), antidrpessent, leukemia medcine & alot of others.
Lately she yells literally EVERY day. Usually before i'm out of bed, shes yelling. I serioulsy can't take it. She FLIPS out over the smallest things. Like right now shes cleaning & she misplaced the MR. Clean & she was flipping out. IT only adds stress & tension to the house. I seriously can't take it. I've had a headache for over 3 months now. I beleive she is one of the main problems. I'm asking, what should i do to make her calmer & less stressful to others. & i CAN'T confront her.
ps another big problem is $12,000 in debt.
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Theres alot more i would need to know to give you an accurate answer. Your mum obviously sounds unsettled and stressed out. Are you helping her around the house? Are you motivated? Sounds likes she needs someone to help her out. Are you the only sibling? Is your father around? You can definetly confront her, she is your mother, ask her whats wrong and what you can do to help her. If she yells persisst her to tell you what she wants that will calm her down. As for you debt, are you employed at the moment? if you are set aside $50 - $100 a week and slowly pay it off, it will take time but it will be done in time.
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It may be just stress. But another suggestion...
If this is something she has just started lately,
it could be her medicine.
My moms doctor put her on a different antidepressant once that put her in a constant rage.
If she were my mom I believe I would try to talk to her about it. If she has recently had a change of meds I would tell her that her behavior has changed and she needs to get it checked out.
Approach the subject calmly, she may not even realize shes doing it.
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hey! well she probably yells a lot because she is stressed out. i know that when my parents are in a situation like that, they yell at me and my sisters even though we didn't do anything bad... but they need to let their anger out somewhere. what you could do is show her that you care about her situation and want to help. have a talk with her casucally, over dinner or something. ask her how things are going, if problems are getting solved... stuff like that. basically, show her that you are interested in her well being. ask her if there are any ways you can help. once she realizes that you want the best for her, and someone is willing to help her, it should lower her stress level a bit.
also, help her out around the house. if she is cleaning, ask her what you can do to help. if you help her out, she will appreciate having you around and she will think twice about yelling at you in the future. plus, she will be less tired and stressed out, and hopefully won't have as much to yell about. it's not really a problem that can be solved over night, but if you keep this up over a few weeks, you should deffinitely see a difference! i hope this helped a little! :)
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if i were you i would be really nice to her and surprise her with things she likes---maybe bake her favorite kind of cookies some times when she gets home from work or try to do something fun with her. maybe take her to a day spa and (im not sure..you didnt say if you were a boy or a girl) either spend the day there with her or just send her there by herself or for a body massage or soemthing she likes to do. just try to help her get her mind off everything thats stressing her out and if she wants to, talk to her about it if it helps. maybe just go on a walk with her--if she doesnt yell and stuff. just help her try to relax and you just have to be realllyyyy nice no matter how mad she gets never loose your temper--itll just make things worse. i hope this helps! if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox/email me.
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hey, qietly suggest to someone other than her(maybe your dad?) that she needs some type of help. you and that person should work to find her help. cait♥
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