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Should I try to forget her? or should i try to stay friends?
Im 16 years old , grade 11, ive known a gurl named teshia for 3 months , met her thru a mutual friend, she was goin out witta guy cory for 9 months, and i thot she was very pretty, and seemed nice, we started saying hi once in a while, then we started calling eachother, soon enuf we were best friends and talkd for hours atta time evry nite and went out to a bunch of places, i made her the happiest shes bin in her life 4 times in those 3 months, but for the last month i really started to fall for her, i loved her, her and cory didnt havva good relationship,he ignored her lots, called her once a week, did sumthing with her twice a month,they fought alot bout me because shed say oh aj does this for me why cant you , i hated cory because he made her miserable, but she couldnt leave him, she luved him, she wantd to be with me tho,then she broke up with him for the reason being i thot was her wanting to be with me , so about a week later i asked her out all romanticly , and she said im not ready , why are you doing this to me, then thers me thinking she'd be all happy, then that was 6 days ago nd since then ive bin tha most hurt ive bin in my life, she still wants to be good friends ,but ive bin tellin her for tha last month i dont no how long i can stay friends because it hurts seeing u with cory, now i cant cuz it hurts not being with u, so i get advice saying just drop her, forget bout it she had her chance, from my sister, friends, ect.. and i tried and shes all i ever think about, its too hard and hurts too much, i asked her again why we cant be together, are you over cory? she says yes but i cant see myself being with you sexually, i was in awe because we almost did sexual stuff a few times, she wanted to but i didnt because she was with cory, and i think thats wrong, it just hurts so much, what should i do?
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if you truly love her, then you want her to be happy... right?
so i would let her go out with cory.
plus- you never know what will happen. if they don't have a good relationship, they will break up soon and then maybe you two can get together.
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I know it hurts to be rejected by this girl, but it's something that you have to start accepting.
If this girl likes to be mistreated and doesn't want to leave this guy, then that is her choice and her fault that she continued to let herself be treated in the way you described. She was with this guy for 9 months, and thats quite a while, so my guess would be that she really isn't over the break-up between them.
I know she said she was over him, but it sounds like she's not. And I don't know why you both were already discussing doing sexual things together, but that's not something that the both of you should be talking about until you actually start a relationship together. And for her to use that excuse tells me that she is flat out not interested in dating you romanticly or any other way. She probably just used that as an excuse to reject you.
What you need to do is give this friendship some space and stay out of her love life. Don't ask her about Cory or anything that has to do with being involved with someone. I wouldn't end the friendship just because she doesn't want to be anything more with you, and you never know that all could change later on in your friendship. I think that you should continue to be what you've been to her, just a really good friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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If you truly do love her you shouldnt drop her. If you love her thatmuch you will give her time to heal from cory and even though it hurts you should still be frineds with her becuase she needs you now.
Hope i helped some
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