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Boyfriend+Eating.
14/f I have been with my boyfriend since January. Whenever we go out, I can never eat in front of him. For instance, when we go to six flags together, I usually don't get anything to eat, just something to drink. Same with movies, mall, what have you.
Well. In about a month, we have a Semi-Formal dance coming up at school. This dance includes a catered dinner before they open the dance floor.
I'm afraid to eat in front of my boyfriend. I'm perfectly fine in front of most friends and whatnot, but I'm not the skinniest girl in the world so I think thats probably why I'm shy about eating.
Its not that I think my boyfriend won't accept me or something, because I know he's not at all like that -- but I still won't eat when I'm with him.
What can I do to resolve this problem?
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Before the dance invite him over for dinner with your parents.pratice eating infront of him .no ones the best with pasatti or pasta so try to stear clear of that.and if you think its because your shy eating because of your wieght maybe lose a few pounds.its not good to starve yourself so .i hope you the best with your dance dinner
hope i helped
katie
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A lot of girls go through what you are facing. It's going to be hard and it's going to feel awkward when you take the first bite around him. But don't worry, it get's much easier. I wasn't thin at all when I began dating so I was especially self conscious. I was afraid the boy would have a joke or something. But it seems like you know this guy pretty well. So just be confident in yourself and in the way he is and enjoy every bite. Start off with something small like another person had said. Share some popcorn at a movie theatre (it will be dark and popcorn is easy to eat). The next time you will feel more comfortable, and before you know it you'll be eating sloppy burgers together :)
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Just do it! Everyone eats and he knows that. Since you're skinny, it's not like he's going to make fun of you or anything. And im guessing he's going to be eating too. Don't think about it, or worry about it. He probably isn't even worried about you eating and im sure he's not even thinking about it! Just go with it! good luck
♥ Evy
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See I had the same problem.. but i just pictured him as my brother.. and first i started eatting slow in front of him like a cracker. Then maybe an apple, then some fries, then something bigger and bigger.
dont be afraid to eat infront of him.. i am the same age and my boyfriend and i began dating my boyfriend jan.13 and i was scared to eat in front of him too. but be ur self and he'll like u more.
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start off in a place you're comfortable with eating. you can eat in your kitchen or in a favorite restaurant (I used to be the same way, so I invited my friend to my favorite italian restaurant/bar). make sure you get something "safe". a girl below suggested salads and things that won't stretch or put you in an awkward situation.
allow him to start eating first, then mimic his movements. if you think that he won't accept you because of the way you eat then eating like him will give you more confidence. gradually you can work up to eating anything around him and you'll be fine.
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It is very very unhealthy to not eat. Your boyfriend is your boyfriend he is going out with you becuase he accepts you from who you are. If he dosn't accept you from who you are he must not really be your boyfriend. You need to show him the real side of you and what you really are like. If you don't want to listen to my advice follow what your heart tells you.
~Sydney
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I went through this exact same thing when I first started dating. I'd go ahead and order something at the restaraunt my date had taken me to, but I'd make sure it was something that could be eaten without embarassment. Like a salad. Or a baked potato. I was terrified of huge burgers that fell apart as soon as you lifted them off the plate, melted cheese that would stretch, Snicker bars. Sometimes I wouldn't eat at all, I'd just talk the entire time, then say something like, "Oooh, look, you're already finished and I've barely even started. I guess we'd better go though, if we want to make the movie." It didn't take very long for me to realize that I was disappointing them when I wouldn't order what I really wanted. They wanted me to be comfortable with them and have a good time and honestly, they don't care if food ends up all over you. I mean, don't be a pig, but just eat like you normally would. I started getting my dates to take me to my favorite restaraunt at that time ( try that), a local roadhouse. I'd order a rack of ribs and fries and have fun. There was a big difference.
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time eating in front of your boyfriend. I know that there are a lot of young girls out there with the same concerns. Maybe you could try eating a small amount taking a bite or two and then gradually eating more and more when you feel more comfortable. I'm sure that your boyfriend has noticed so I'm surprised that he's never asked. When I was first with my husband I didn't really eat in front of him either . . . and I don't really know why. Now we laugh about the dates that we used to have where all I had was a soda. Take care.
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I used to be the same way with my boyfriend. I was scared he'd think I was gross or something, so I just never ate in front of him. But eventually, I got over it. You'll get used to it, and you can't not eat in front of him forever. You're gonna have to do it sometime.
♥TiNA
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Well, you just have to get over your fear. I don't really understand why you won't eat in front of him, but you should. That way he will know that you are healthy and do not have an eating disorder. Most guys prefer when girls get a Big Mac over a salad. Eating is kind of a turn on for them. So don't worry about what he thinks, and enjoy yourself! Good luck.
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