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Not what I expected
My boyfriend drinks. That I dont care about. Just as long as he is responsible. Well he goes out with a friend of ours and drink this his friend's freinds. It really kind of bothers me because they are girls. I have talked to him about it, and he has reassured me that he won't do anything to threaten us as a couple. But our mutual friend, whom he drinks with, says that he can't control himself. But, This friend is known to tell lies. What should I do? I don't trust the girls he drinks with. I trust him. They drink like 2-3 times a week.
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If your boyfriend gets hammered with other girls, he probably doesn't care about you that much. When people are drunk they aren't in control of what they do, if he cared about you, he wouldn't put himself in those types of situations.
Have you tried talking to him about it? Sorry to sound so pessimistic.
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Personally i really do know how you feel. My boyfriend and i have been together for two years, and when he goes and does things with other people like your bf does, i don't really like it too much. I trust him, but it seems like that's when my insecurity comes out most. Anyways you should talk to him and don't keep it inside of you. I've said that i don't care that he drinks, but i really do. If you really do, ask him to stop. Explain to him how you feel. If he's a good boyfriend he'll listen and have respect for your feelings. If they only go 2-3 times a week, try going with him..if that's not possible, just talk to him and trust him & that's all you can do. good luck!
♥ Evy
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wellll?? hum thats a tuffy!!
well see if next time when he goes if you can!!
if your boyfreind is like NO then be supisious! well yeah!! just try and go with him one day and see for yourself what he's like
hope i helped
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that is tricky but sometimes drinking doesn't mean they're gonna do anything. go along with him next time. if its really akward and no one is talking, that's probably a sign that yeah, they go crazy usually and since you are there, they cant do that and that's why its so akward. so i think go along would be the only way to really find out what goes down. <3
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why don't you go along? You don't have to drink, you can just hang out, but that way you get to see how your boyfriend acts firsthand when drunk.
However, I'd be a little worried as to why he feels the need to drink that often, without his girlfriend around.
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ok well drinking is a serous problem, its really bad for your mental and physical health! i think that you should sit him down and tell him that:
1. you trust him, just not the people he drinks with
2. he drinks too much, maybe 1-2 times a week but 2-3 is too much, try to convince him to drink at home, or with you, that way at least you can help him if he does get out of control, nd hes with you not the other girls
3. tell him to limit the drinking and try to go out with other friends that you trust more with him
4. dont yell, stay calm, and make sure that he understands that your doing this because you care about him and his well-being
Good luck!
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since he is your bf, you should explain how much you dislike it. you should tell him that you do trust him but for your relationship, you really don't want him drinking with them. if you explain to him that it's really important for your relationship, he might listen. it's not like he does it a few times a year, its 2-3 times a week, which is a lot.
-hope that helped!♥
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