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Racism?
I don't know if this counts as racism, but my friend doesn't really care or know about the difference between Orientals such as Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, etc. It's not that she disses the races but she doesn't get who is who and says "Japanese, Korean, whatever" or "Chinese, Korean, same difference." She also calls me a different race than I am and her family always asks me if I get my stuff from China when I buy my stuff here. I was born in the U.S. and the question really irritates me. I think her dad's the only normal one. She's not Oriental herself but she is Asian. (I don't really want to give anything away because it is probably rude, I don't know). How do I teach her about the differences? I am Oriental but I need some help. Thanks in advance!
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I would advise you to sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel, that you feel hurt by the way she says things, although she may not know she is doing this. You need to let her know gently so as not to alarm her and make her think you are angry, cause you don't seem to be? anyway just tell her if she is unsure of what race someone is just tell her it is more ethical to say "that person" rather than "that chinese person" cause for all she knows they could be american and have never been in China, just have chinese parents!
In my opinion she needs to think about things before she says them, and before somebody who isn't her friend hears her saying these things and gets offended, you never know what people could do these days!
Kris.
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there's a video we watched in school that's called "all orientals look the same". that sounds wrong i know but it shows you each race of each person & you can really tell the difference. if she isn't getting the point you can explain how it bothers you & maybe show her the video. here's a website-
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go to this site & there's a little link on the right handed side that says 'all orientals look the same' & there's a video camera next to it. click that & the video comes up. if a pop up says 'MIME config.' er something juss exit out & the video comes up.
-hope that helped!♥
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Next time she talks about an Oriental race, and doesn't know which nationality she is talking, you could suggest to her that she simply uses the word Oriental instead. Then, while you're on the subject, gently tell her that people from other races won't midn her asking if she's not sure, and it's better to ask than just dismiss the difference. Perhaps you could introduce her to some people of specific races, and introduces them as Korean or Chinese or whatever race they happpen to be, so that she learns to associate the people with their race.
Good luck and God bless
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