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should i tell?
Well me and my two best friends just to let you know how close we are: we are like crazy and we are always together, i mean i love hanging out with them and everything. Out of our class we are definately the prettiest and most fun to be around. People throughout our school know us as the BIG not cause we are big but because of our initials. I mean we agree on the same guys and everything i swear we are related but we arent. So here is the problem: We went to an FFA conventionand we were all totally looking for guys i mean what else would we be doing. But see Lindsey is the only one that has a cell phone so we always use her number and well of course they all like Lindsey right away because they got HER phone number but then if they are hott we like all fall in love with them but like i am usually the one who doesnt really care. And well this time the guy is calling me all the time and i think i am starting to like him but i dont want to tell my best friends about it because who knows what would happen. i mean i want to tell them but they are always saying no he likes me and they are fighting over who they likes between them and they act like just because i never argue i dont like him but secretly i do and i think he likes me too. but what i want to know is should i tell them that i like them and hope that they support me or should i let them find out on their own. but i would feel really bad about not telling them everything because we always say everything that happens and i dont want it to seem like i am lying to them! help? and if it matters i really really like this guy
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No affence hunni, but tell your friends that you REALLY like this gye and that you want to make a go of it, if they argue about who he likes most I think it's really selish that they put theirselfs infront of their friends happiness. If they do argue about it why not just date him secretly and then if you get off with him tell your friends about him and they won't be able to do anything about it.
Hope this helps
Madi
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well, obviously the "moral" answer would be to tell them, b/c they're your friends, and you guys tell each other everything.
But of course, we don't really care about morals here. so you should probably wait for your friend to really like somebody else, that way when you tell her, she won't really care. if you tell her now, she could support you, but there's also the chance that things could get awkward and it might ruin a friendship. so you should probably wait until she likes someone else.
Alan
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whew.
the obviously "right" thing to do would be to tell them.
But then why would you be on this site? So i'm going to give you some advice from a realist. Advice that may not be the "right" thing.
You know you'll have to eventrually tell them. But wait for when they're currently obsessed with another guy.
Or tell them about the guy's relationship with you. not about the guy. don't say how gorgeous or sweet or wonderful he is. don't make him seem appealing. make him seem taken.
and if they truly are your friends, they should easily see how much you like him. if that doesn't work, they should at least see that he already likes you.
personally i think the second choice i gave you is better. coming clean will relieve you of much guilt, but talking about relationship first makes sure they don't fall in love with the guy before they find out you like him too.
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You seriously should tell them. Come on, they are your best friends. Tell them how much you like him and you think he likes you too. That, you dont want them to interfere with you too because its happened before and this guy you really like. They are your best friends, if they find out about this and it wasnt from you im sure they will be pissed and it will be even harder to explain when they confront you. Just get it over with, and it will be alot easier and better by them finding out from you instead of someone else. hope i helped =D
-beckss
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The best thing that you could do right now is tell them. Picture this.. If you ended up liking this guy as much as you think you do and he becomes your boyfriend, wouldn't that be harder to explain to your friends? I think so :] lol, but yea, just tell them in the best words that you can and ask them to PLEASE not interfere with his and your relationship because he means alot to you :] Get together everything your gonna say to them and then rehearse it, then just tell them :]! Hope this helps
xOox-emily
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