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Am I right for thinking this?
My mum and I just had a big argument.. we NEVER fight, but when we do it's pretty bad. Anyway, I told her I hadn't been sleeping lately, like it takes me hours to get to sleep because I'm doing year 12 and I'm very stressed. I have trouble concentrating at school and I'm having difficulty doing my work because of lack of sleep (I get 5 or 6 hours at most, but usually less). I asked her if maybe I could see a doctor or get something at the drugstore to help me sleep, and she got REALLY angry at me, saying it was my fault for not concentrating and that I was selfish and that there's nothing a doctor could give me ever so I just had to deal with it. She also made fun of me and acted like it was no big deal. Well, I know it's nothing serious, but I thought I could just ask her if there's anything I could get. I felt very hurt that she treated me like that when I thought I could rely on her to help me out. Now I'm starting to think that maybe it IS my fault, and she was right.
What do you guys think of this? We haven't spoken since then. Was I really making a big deal over nothing? Is my mum right? She's usually very wise, but I still feel kinda bad she said that to me. Is it really true that there's nothing you can for insomnia?
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Well, I hate to break it to you, but if you're going to university next year, you're going to be sleeping even less! It's not good to rely on medication, since you develop a dependence.
She did treat you kind of rudely about it, but she is right, even if she didn't get her message across in the most appropriate way.
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Dear Am I Right,
I'm sorry that your mother was so insensitive to you. Yes, our parents are human and have their share of shortcomings. It's important to tell your mom that "her response" hurt your feelings.
Sometimes when people react like this, it's because they're feeling overwhelmed with things going on in their lives. In addition, she may not understand that insomnia is usually a "red flag," a symptom that something is going on with you.
At any rate, I commend you for reaching out about this situation, and there are better solutions than drugs (legal or illegal). You see, although some OTC (over the counter) product might help you sleep, it won't help you understand why you're having this difficulty.
Might this be something that you could speak to a school counselor or favorite teacher about? How about googling for a 24 hr anonymous "teen hotline"? Speaking confidentailly with someone about how you're feeling about your life might just help.
There's a reason you aren't able to sleep; reach out now, dear one, before it becomes more serious. Remember, be good to your self and those you love.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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I dont think you made a big deal of the sittuation i mean your mom shouldn't have flipped out on you like that im so sorry that you feel like this because it really does seem like you don't have nobody to rely on because your mom kind of turned her back on you when you called out for her help which most daughters dont have with there mothers....as for insomnia that is a problom my mom has really bad insomnia and it takes her 3 hrs tossin n turnin in bed for her just to close her eyes and she only sleeps about 45 hrs a night and she is on the pills...docors will monitor your sleeping and give you sleeping pills for at night because you really need them if you have insomnia.... my mom takes 7 pills nightly for her insomnia but i dont think your's is as bad as hers...which is a good thing...you should go get checked with a doctor if they say you need the pills then you should go get them REALLY they will help a lot and plus you dont want your grades to slip soo thats my opponion....You and your mom really need to stop keeping a grudge that tears your heart up....So hope you take my advice into some concideration...sory about the probloms your haveing with your mom thats never good
~DominicanGrl
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Its never a good idea to start relying on pills to help you sleep. That is probably her fear. Once you get dependent on sleeping pills it is difficult to sleep without them. So, in that sense her thinking is correct.
However, not being able to sleep is not your fault. She really shouldn't have made fun of you. I would let her know that your feelings were hurt. Then let it go, I'm sure she didn't mean to.
Now, something that has worked for me in the past...sounds so simple and silly is this. Turn around and try sleeping with your head at the foot of the bed. Sometimes its just something a little different about things will let you fall right to sleep! :)
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ok you finding it hard to sleep is hardly your fault. Your right, you should be able to rely on your mum with things like this and if you cant i think you should talk to her about it, she needs to know you feel hurt when she makes fun of you and you should also tell her that you want to get help so you can sleep and consentrate on your work, if she loves you she would take this seriously and would want to help you any way she can
loads of luck
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