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It seems like my 2 friends are replacing me with someone els
I have been best friends with these two people for years now. Us three have always been good friends. But recently they have met someone else who they have been hanging out with a lot. She is a really nice girl, but it seems like my two best friends are trying to replace me with her because whenever she will do something that I do, like tell a funny story or wear my hair a certain way, they will always laugh more with her, or notice that she wore her hair differently. Every single day I make a huge effort to include myself, but it seems like they always end up with the other girl. Since us four have PE together, they always go to the other girl to be partners with. I have talked to both of my friends numerous times about this problem, but they both don't seem to make an effort to include me. I really wish things could go back to old times because we had so much fun together last year, and I don't feel ready to give up on this because us three have so much fun together.
Please help me!!
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try not talking to them about it. If you do they may think you are a drama queen. (I'm sure you are really nice, but I have a friend in the same position as you, and the mean girls think she is a drama queen for always getting offended of the new girl in the group). Make friends with the new girl and try to hang-out with her on the weekends. If your friends with her I know your friends will spend more time on you. Plus, if you know the other girl more, you will be able to have inside jokes that will make your other friends jelouse. That may sound mean, but hey, thats life. If your other friends are jelouse then they will think highly of you therefor wanting to hang out with YOU. I don't give the best, most harmless advice, but they usually work. ;)
Goodluck
-brittany
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"talk to them about including you!"
that is the exact advice i would NOT give. you've obviously given you best try.
so your having a difficult time feeling included, there are several things you could do. take your pick.
1. Try to get to know the other girl. perhaps when you and her become closer friends, you'll feel included because you won't be "competing" with her. You know what they say " if you can't beat them, join them."
But that won't solve your problem of going back to old times.
2. Organize a little get-together for just the three of you. with the other girl not there, you three will be able to hang out like you used to, from my experience my friends act alot like their old selves when around me without their new friends around. They would pay more attention to you and it'll bring you closer and closer together. If this works, try organzing several, so that the relationship between the three of you becomes stronger.
Life goes on and you'll have to go on with it. It's still nice to hold on to what's dear to you, but remember you have a whole life ahead of you.
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Write them a letter. I would probally say alot of words like "i" and "we". Not "you" and other words like that. Don't blame them with stuff, such as omg you were so cool now u've changed. Talk in the, I realize things may have changed between us, but i'd like to make an effort to make things better"
Sort of write what you wrote to us. Maybe their not aware of what is happeneing.
Best of luck.
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you should talk to your friends more in depth about this, it's not nice being treated the way you are, you should tell them how you feel and if they still make no effort to include you then maybe you should find some new, more considerate friends and get on with your life. Remember not all friends are forever
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Well try talking to them about including you more.
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