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Pregnat=rappist
so a little while ago was rapped..and i missed my period..im with the most amazing guy and if i tell him i know hes going to think im crazy (it was his best friend..who rapped me) and i dont know how to tell him..and i think im pregnat.my parents will kill me because they wont think i was rapped they'll think its an excuse BUT IM NOT LIEING!.but i cant be..im only 14..just turned 14 (the day i was rapped was my 14th bday..Jan 27th)
<3 Lil PLEASE HELP!
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Hey Hun,
Im sorry about what happend to you. Im a Rape victim too. Im not a Teen Rape Advocate. If you think your pregnant tell your mom you were raped. Teens who rape teens need to be reported. My Commanding Officer in high school who was 18 and i was 16. Was my best friend. He raped me, I tried to keep it a secret. Yea that wasnt the best thing to do. He went free, but atleast i put up a fight. Guys who do that need a reality check because its not right. Your 14 and dont need to have a baby. If i were you go to www.plannedparenthood.com and schedule an apt. to see a gynocologist or a local clinic. Now and days all of this is classified. Its a new law, doesnt matter how old you are, then tell them you were raped and think you might be pregnant and once you tell them, everything will be okay. They will check to see if you didnt get any AIDS or STDS and give you a pregnancy test and if its positive they will give you an abortion pill. Unless you want to have the kid, then i would tell your parents you were raped and had nothing to do with it, tell them exactly what went down. I know its scary, i thought my parents were gunna blame me, and be mad. But trust me!! they know, it can happend. So tell them, once you do! you will feel much better. I Lost over a month of sleep because i didnt tell my mom, or dad. I slept for 2days str8 after i told my parents. The police came over, and they are very helpful. They ask you questions where it happend. You will never ever have to see him again. They will give you counseling and an advocate like me. If you want a advocate like me i will personally give you my cell number and i can help you through this. Its difficult i know. Trust me, i cant trust many men. I havent only been raped once, more then once and i have had friends raped and etc. I have been through it all dear, its scary. Please! I want to help you. Because i had to go through this alone, and it sucks. I would tell your boyfriend first, i told my boyfriend who was friends with him, and like he ended up punching him in the nose, but other then that he respected that i told him, and just be like "baby i love you so much" and then slowly let him know. he will be so proud you got the guts to tell him, and if he freaks out "which i doubt" then screw him! but the best thing to do is talk about to someone, someone who can help you, and your going to have to hurry, if you think your pregnant. Please leave me a message and i will personally give you my number. I will help through it all. I swear.
-Sammay
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wow! okay well im sure your parents will believe you!
you should tell them you where raped if your pregnat or not!
like im not saying CRY for them to believe you! but go up to them and tell them about " this dude " and what he did to you! and tell them you could possiably be pregnat!
i no it might sound hard! and yeah you parents will probably contact somebody! but thats for the best! you dont want that guy to go around and do that to more people! so you should really tell your parents!
your boyfriend wont think your crazy! he'll think his best firend is crazy for doing that to you! and if he does then maybe hes not right for you! but im pretty sure he wont think anything bad about you! so yeah well i hoped i helped you in some ways
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Being raped is a HUGE deal. You have to tell an adult about it now. You should have told your parents when it first happened or your boyfriend. I think you should go talk to a guidance counsler or an adult you trust about it. Or you should tell your parents. Since raping is such a huge deal they should believe you because it isnt something to joke around about. Take a pregnancy test even if it reads not pregnant you still have to tell someone you were raped in rist of STD's or anything. If your parents stil dont believe them you should show them this question you posted. Are you a trustworthy person to them? Well all I know is that you have to tell someone really soon. A teacher guidance counsler anyone who can help talk to you. Raping is serious and not something to be taken lightly. You can press charges against him because it is highly illegal and he will be sent to jail or juvinille. Sorry this is so long but sweetie its the truth TELL SOMEONE
Hope I helped =)
good luck
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You was raped and didn't tell your parents? Hun you really should tell them the sooner the better! Your parents shouldn't think you're lying, the will most probably stick by you and get you checked over by the doctor/gyn.
If they don't believe you then its most likely because you left it so long before telling them.
As for your boyfriend, he should really know about this. If he backs up his friend then he really isn't worth your time and you can do better.
I suggest telling your parents before getting a pregnancy test just so you've got a bit of support when you get the results, its a tough thing to deal with and i hope everything goes well!
If you need any more help or have any questions don't be afraid to drop me a message in my inbox or email me x
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firstly u hav GOT to tell your parents no matter what tell them you did get graped but before that go take a test and see if you are pregnant after you tell your parents you tell your boy friend what his friend done to you he will NOT think your crazy if he loves you
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Well, remember this, it's not your fault. Obviously, you need to get a pregnancy test done. You could be panicking over nothing. They're available at drug stores anywhere. If it's positive, first tell your parents. There's no choice. You obviously need to let them know, you can't hide a pregnancy. Next tell your boyfriend everything. If he really is amazing, he'll have to believe you. If not, he's not worth you're time. Next, go see a doctor, and decide what's going to happen to this baby (adoption, etc).
-Becky
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