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Okay I really like this guy, and I think hes gonna ask me out soon. However my parents say No Boyfriends whatsoever. I've had boyfriends plenty of times before but not ones that go over to each others houses and go to movies and stuff cause I've never been able to tell my parents about boyfriends. Now this guy that I like, is the type of boyfriend that yall hang out every day outside of school and I totally want that, But I don't know how to get my parents to approve of me having a boyfriend. Any ideas?
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Well, before you even think about going out with this guy, you need to show your parents you can be trusted. For the next few weeks, always get home on time, make sure you do all your homework so they dont get letters home from school, and dont be lazy, cook for yourself and the family sometimes, feed your pets, do housechores, or even get yourself a job. All these things show your parents you are independent, grown-up and can be trusted so they are much more likely to accept you having a boyfriend. After these few weeks, talk to them about how you think you're ready for a boyfriend and hopefully they'll say you can. Hope this helps!
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Well, you'll never be able to get your parents approval by sneaking around, because if you get caught, your situation will be worse than now.
Sometimes having a serious talk with your parents maturely can really work. I know you can't picture your parents actually considering a boyfriend for you, but it's worth a try and you have no idea how much respect and trust your parents will have for you if you talk to them like an adult.
You know, like, "Mom and dad, I know that you don't want me to have a boyfriend right now, but there is a really nice guy that I've known for a while and we're really good friends. I think you'll really like him, and I really like him too. So, I was thinking that maybe if you'd just give me a chance with this guy to let me prove to you that I can be trusted, then you'd feel more comfortable with me having a boyfriend" or something along those lines.
Believe me, it's absolutely worth a shot, and even if they say no, they WILL remember that you had the maturety to talk to them like adults instead of throwing fits and sneaking around like a child.
-TheTeenGirl
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Deffinately try group dates, just say you are going somewher with a bunch of friends, and just have him there.
I realy don't think your parents are going to change their minds about you not having a boyfriend, but just try to get around their rules.
I don't want to like tell you to lie to your parents, but if you really want to date this guy you might have to.
Just like go to the mall and say you are going with a friend, and meed him there, and have your friend like go with someone else so you two can spend some alone time together.
Good Luck! I hope everything goes well!
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You have servral options:
The gay/just friends approach. You either lie and say he's gay or say you're just friends.
Group date approach. Go out with a ton of people. That won't know who's paired up with who so you can't get in trouble.
Honest approach. Tell them you have a boyfriend. If they cannot deal with that then they will have to adjust to it. You may get grounded from this but at least you tell the truth.
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just go on a giant group date with some of you friends and their boyfriends. Then your parents won't find out, they'll just think you're going to the mall/movies/whatever with some friends.
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omg, its crazy because im going thru the same situation, except my parents have never told me no boyfriends. but in my life i only had 1 boyfriend that my parents didnt noe about and i reacenlty moved and over here its boys that wanna take me out, to their house and movies and just chill but i cant tell my parents that..im to embarrased or scared to talk about boyfriends to my parents and thas y i never really had a realtionship..but i think you shud keep your soon to be boyfrined on the low away from your friends and when you wanna hang with him let your parents noe its a friend or use one of your friends as a cover up..ex. you go to the movies wit your friends but the whole time you'll be wit him..undastand??
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