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What are the steps to get a girl from hardly noticing you to her going out with you? I am ugly so don't count on looks helping me here. I also don't want this to happen "That ugly guy keeps saying hi to me and talking to me. Its so weird. Next time he says hi to me I am going to say don't look at me"
So detailed guide in how to start.
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Oh bless you!!!!
It's so terrible to think that you think of yourself that way. I hate that word 'ugly'. It's so cruel.
The absoloute truth is that, yes, there are a lot of girls out there who go for 'pretty boys' but looks DON'T win over everything else with people who count for anything. Even if you weren't the most attractive person out there, a decent girl would be able to see past that to the person you are inside and be attracted to that. Besides which, who's to say that this girl finds you unattractive?
If you want her to notice you, confidence is the key. The one thing that a girl will pick up on more than anything else is a guy who is sure of himself, without being cocky about it. It's very hard to describe but you need to emenate a 'presence' when you are around her. Let her KNOW that you are there. Hold your head up high. Walk tall. Walk past her with some friends, laughing and talking as you go and as you walk past, catch her eye and flash her the tiniest smile. See if she smiles back and take it from there. If she does, go and say hi. Make small talk. See what she likes, what she doesn't like.
What you do from there is up to you but please PLEASE don't think that your looks have anything to do with it. Even if she turns you down, it might not be anything to do with how you look. You need to build your self esteem a little. After all, if you don't like you, how can you expect someone else to? There WILL be something about you that girls will find attractive. So work out what your best qualities are and use them to your advantage.
Good luck.
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First thing is first..you are not ugly..you are you...people can like you or love you...
There is no real guide to this sort of thing..If you want a girl to like you, you have to be yourself and not use a guide as a plan to get her to like you. Yeah there are things you can do like help her out when she is in need, always try and be there for her, just take things step by step. Start off with the odd hello and then start talking to her more and more till you both get to know eachother really well.
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your kinda hard on your self. she might not think your ugly, all diffrent girls have diffrent tastes in guys. you might not be the best looking(i dont know) but if guys have good personalities than that can also make them cute. you'll just have to try the whole"hi" thing and see how she acts, and try to be nice to her like open door for her(not like wait 5 min. for her to come down the hall way or ne thing, but if shes behind you than do it).
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ok well some girls can be prett nasty and bitchy sometims, and date guys for looks...and that is all..but there are also some girls who really dont care and date for personality...but you cant always tell wich girl is wich...so basically the first thing you need to do is TALK to her...i dont know if you get nervous by talking to girls or not..if you do you should try to find out he sn or like her myspace or something..and start talking through that...then maybe when you feel comfortabe enough....you can start talking to her in person...but if you are not shy or ne thing then you should deffinately just go up to her and just like start a conversation..mabye like "o hey i just noticed that we have never really met..so i just wanted to introduce myself.." and then mabye talk about some more stuff..or just like everyday say hey to her or like wats up or how are you...and overtime you will probably start a friendly relationship....and things will start to build up from that...like you can start flirting wiht her..and maybe express feelings of starting to like her...like giving her hugs, or comforting her when she is sad, being a shoulder for her to cry on..because girls love it when i guy is willing to listen to them, and be there for them when they are sad, or to offer some advice, and then when you feel you are ready..you can ask her out...
well i hope i helped...good luck!
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Honestly,a lot of girls these days are just bitches and they go mostly by looks.Personality is usually only a plus for them,so you have to find a girl who doesn't really care for looks but likes you for who you are.
With that said,just try talking to her and get to be her friend and whatnot.After you've talked to her for a while and it seems like you both feel comfortable with eachother,try to get her screen name(if she has one),or get her phone number.Just keep talking to her until it feels like you guys are starting to become friends,and then ask her if she wants to go to the mall or movies with you or something along those lines.If you go on a few dates and it seems like things are going well,then you can try asking her out if you want.Just try not to make it seem like you're trying too hard to get with her.
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♥ well you at least have to try. So you are going to start talking to her some time. just make small talk at first. and if you think you are getting the vibe that maybe she likes you too. well then you can talk about dating. but you just have to take it easy at first, and i know thats probably not what you were looking for since it wasn't very detailed, but thats all i can really think of for right now. so good luck anyways. xoxo.
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