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Fling?
First off, I've been single for a really long time. Last week I met a really great guy. I have really high expectations and he met almost every one of them. Anyway, I know I kinda brought it upon myself but I sent him one of those typical surveys about "what you would do" and "do you like me" types of things. He marked that he wanted a fling with me but not an actual relationship. Should I go for the fling, do what a I want and have a valentine this year or just stay friends and be alone for a really long time? If it helps, I go to an all girls high school & see guys.. never. I'm 15 & female. thanks!
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Well I went to an all-girls school too, so I can completely relate to how you feel, it really sucks huh? Flings are fine at that age, but it depends on how far you're willing to take it. I mean I doubt you'd be ready to have sex with a guy you've only known for a week, but unfortunately most guys see no-strings sex as a definition of a fling. You won't be alone for a really long time, but I can understand that you want to grab this chance while you have it as boys are a bit thin on the ground in your school! My advice? By all means have a fling but never do anything you're not comfortable with. This boy will certainly not be the last one you meet, so save yourself for someone special.
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Well it depends on what you want. A fling usually ends in heartbrake if you actually want a real relationship with him. I would ask him out if I were you. You have the chance of him saying yes and you getting what you want, and if he says no you can still be friends or have a "fling". If you want help in getting guys out of school (since you go to an all girls school) go to the mall or something and flirt it up.
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A fling could be nice but you seem like the type of girl who doesnt do that, just because of the fact you havent been in a relationship in awhile, anyways if hes everything you've been waiting for theres always a chance that he'll end up liking you more and not want a fling but instead a relationship. Also theres a chance that he might have written that he wanted a fling in case you didnt like him that way his feelings for you were protected and he didnt end up embarassed. Good Luck, and if you pick fling be ready for the no commitment part.
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I wouldn't check off the box saying "long term" if I didn't know the person, but if I thought there was potential, fling would fit. I think he just wants to get to know you first. Don't push so hard! He's as interested in you as most guys are interested in the girls that eventually become their girlfriends ;-) Relax, and keep an eye on it, but don't take the "pulse" of the relationship through surveys, especially often.
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