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i do drugs , i cut school , how should i get back on track ?
Hey i see you've had some problems with drugs . i am 15 year old female .can you try helping me out .. This summer i was completely drug free . I satrted hangin with the wrong people to early . I started cutting school ALOT i failed everythign my parents still don't know =/ . Then i started smoking cigarets ,then weed . When that phase was over i started doing ecstasy and now i sniff coke . I am really skinny by nature and drugs are making it worse , the thing is im not sure i want to quit as weird as it sounds . I want to do good in school and family but i just don't want to quit cocaine its something ido for my self , to relax kind off . what do you think ? how should i start of fixing this whole situation ?
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You need to get help.
A coke habit is not something a 15 year old is capable of dealing with on her own. Besides the fact that you're still a growing girl who is throwing her body chemistry out of whack with a drug addiction, you aren't old enough to handle wanting something this bad and walking away with it.
Addictions are insidious. They are difficult to deal with and difficult to accept help for. Its frustrating when something seems out of our control, and Coke can be the worst of all, because you seldom feel out of control when you're on it. Its not until the comedown and a few days later when you're jonesing for a line that you start to realize the price a habit like this demands.
I want to impress something upon you. Your situation is serious, this isn't something you should just "do the best you can with" and get by. Its not something you should deal with yourself to avoid involving others like your family in your problems.
As hard as it is, you need to tell your parents. The dissapointment, and the outright fear for your safety that you're going to get from them is momentary, destroying your life and losing your momentum for making something of yourself is not.
Tell your parents that you have a habit you need to shake. Tell them you want to get into therapy. Talk as much as you can make yourself about it, and stress that you want very badly to quit and that you need help doing so. Tell them you've watched yourself go downhill and you're sick of it, and that you want and need help finding your way out of the hole.
If your parents aren't capable of understanding or helping, start with a school counselor. They're there specifically for this, to give students with no one else to turn to a place to go for help. Tell them the same thing I told you to tell your parents, and if you have to ask them if they might be able to help you tell your parents, or if they can help you be more able to tell them yourself.
You have a problem. Admitting that to yourself is the first step. Deciding that you're sick of having the problem is the second. Find your resolve, this is not outside your power to conquer, but at this time in your life its imperative that you start now.
The sooner you start working your way past this, the faster you can get back on track.
Also, start buying books. Books more than anything have given me an escape, a way to relax and to go somewhere where my problems don't exist for a while. Drugs can definitely do that too, which is why they're so dangerous. Its alot easier for me to put down a book when I have to than it is for you to put down that next line.
Replace your habits with healthier ones. Read, go out with friends, invest in a video game console, rent every TV series known to man and watch them all, when you feel that craving for something to make you feel a little bit better, substitute in a different activity that helps towards that same goal.
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I have no idea how you should go about changing (maybe ask a teacher, guidance counselor, or therapist?) but I want you to know that you've already gotten past the first, huge step. You realized you have a problem and you want to fix it, and I'm really, really proud of you. Congratulations, and good luck!
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I think you may have meant to send this to a certain columnist, but it was sent to the pool so I am going to answer it anyway.
You can start fixing this whole situation by wanting to quit using illegal drugs. But especially cocaine and esctasy. Don't you see that your drug problem is steadily getting worse? You started off smoking weed, and now you are doing hardcore drugs. Addicting drugs that have you hooked, even if you don't want to be. Your body becomes dependent and you have no choice but to use. Do you really want that to be you? Even if in the future you somehow wanted to quit, you may not be able to. Drug dependency is common with cocaine.
You should quit everything right away. There should be no "I will just use once a week until I can quit." Quit now! Quit smoking, quit doing drugs, quit skipping school. I know by experience that it can be done, but it can only be done if you really want it. If you really want to change, I will give you step by step directions on how to get there. Don't even bother reading the rest unless you want to change though. Unfortunately you said yourself that you didn't know if you wanted to quit and until you want to, you can't get help. When you decide you do, read on.
The first thing you need to do is tell yourself you are done screwing up your life. Don't use anymore after reading this. Don't put yourself in situations that will pressure you to use. Stay away from "friends" that do drugs, because I promise they are no friends of yours. They won't be the kind of people you want to hang out with years from now. If you have a genuinely hard time quitting or you experience withdraws, you will have to tell someone you trust; preferably your parents. Withdraws are dangerous, and can be fatal. It's very important that you get help right away if your drug use has become that severe. Your parents can be your support system. They can watch you to make sure you aren't slipping up and possibly get you into an out-patient clinic if you need it.
The next thing you need to do it talk to your teachers at school. Tell them you went through a really bad time in your life, and you genuinely want to change. Ask if there is any extra credit you can do to raise your grades back up. Look into summer school to get you caught back up. You'll have to tell your parents about your grades, but let them know you are really trying to straighten up. I am sure they will understand you.
Cocaine cannot be used as a relaxant for you. It's not healthy. You need to learn healthy techniques to relax your body. This may sound stupid, but look into yoga. I do it, and it's so peaceful and it honestly does work if you do it correctly. You can buy a yoga video from a store, or you can do yoga videos online. Youtube has a channel called "Yogatic" and it has any and all types of yoga you could ever want. Look into it, seriously.
Try taking up a hobby. I love to read, so maybe go to your local library and find some books on a topic that interests you. Start writing in a journal or diary to help release all of your negative energy on paper. After that, go jogging or run in place. Exercise releases endorphins, which is a hormone that makes you naturally happy :) Maybe you can start a sport at school you've been interested in.
Have you ever been interested in any after school activities? Debate team, drama, school government, anything? If you need someone to talk to, ask your parents about taking you to a councelor. They are not psychologists, or psychiatrists, or anything of the sort. They are just there for you. You can tell them anything you want, and they are not allowed to tell anyone anything.
Spend all of your time focused on one thing. In your case, that should be school. Study as much as you can, and throw yourself into your school work. That's the best thing you can do for yourself beside quitting drugs.
I know this all seems very scary, especially telling your parents about your drug use. But I promise after they get past the initial shock of the situation, they will be there for you and they will help you. I wouldn't even be surprised if they already susect your drug use, and just don't want to admit it. You can't do this without them. If you want to get back on track, quit doing drugs. As long as you are on them, you'll stay on the track you are on right now.. that is until you crash. (Pun intended).
Inbox me if you need more help.
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First, you need to ask yourself why you need drugs to "relax". What's going on in your life that makes you think you need to escape with the use of mind-altering drugs? Is home kind of crazy right now? Do drugs give you a confidence you feel you don't normally have? If you feel you can, talk to the school counsellor. Its private and they can refer you to places and people that you can talk to. Or check out this website for teens who are in your situation.
www.checkyourself.org
You said it yourself, you're hanging out with the wrong people. You know you shouldn't be around people who encourage you to do the wrong things, but its hard to just "drop" your friends. Find something to get involved in. It may sound lame, but church youth groups are always a great place to start b/c you can meet other kids your age who are struggling just like you are, but who are interested in more positive activities. Also, try getting involved in things at school. Like acting or art? Join the drama club or try out for the play. Music? Try band or some other music club. My point is, you need to find other interests outside of the drugs. You need figure out exactly what the drugs and "friends" do for you, and replace that with positive people and activity. Remember, you ARE who you hang with. The more positive and active people you surround yourself with, the easier it will become to leave all the bad stuff behind. If you have an adult you can trust (pastor, teacher, religious leader of some kind) go talk to them. They might be able to point you to some good places to hang out and get involved in. You're reaching out for help, and that's a great sign. You can get back on the right track, but please don't try to do it alone. We all need support and good friends to make it in this life. Anything worth doing is difficult. This will be hard at first, but I've found that if you start taking the little steps in the right direction, you'll usually end up finding people who can help you the rest of the way. You can do this.
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