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Should I stop this secret affair or not? (i rate =) )
Right, i have a best mate called rowan (he's a guy im a girl but im called roHan lol) im 14 he's 14 and we'v been best mates kinda on an off for about 3 years, a month ago our friend nikki had a party and we were laying down and just watching a movie when we started kinda flirting and touching each other up then it prgressed and he fingered me and i gave him a handjob nobody saw us though, Since then we'v had a thing going in secret, we'l go up an alley for a *talk* after school, and stuff will happen, iv gievn him head twice and we'v talked online about fucking and stuff iv had 1 bf during this thing and he's had 2 gfs, its stopped then, thing is i dont actually have a crush on him and he doesnt have one on me, im just a lil confused an all, should i keep it going with him? or should i end it?
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Well maybe if you keep going he will start to like you or maybe your confused because you really do like him but you just dont know it.
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See the thing is those kinds of relationships can really hurt people when they end. Becasue you think you dont have feeling for them but it's a strong lust. And when people find out you'll probably be called names and what not. My friend did that and now things are slightly messed up for her. If you think its worth it kepp doing it, but if you think its worth it you definatly have strong feelings twards him. Hope I helped good luck xoxo x3
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From what you've described it sounds like you two are just "fuck buddies". I agree with Young Grandma that you should stop this. I can already think of a couple reasons why. First off, you are both only 14, and I think a little young to be doing the things you're describing. Also, it might leave you to feel really guilty if you're still doing this with him while you find a guy that really does love you. Save yourself for true love. I think that this boy is just using you because you said that he doesnt have feelings for you. And remember, casual sex ( which is what this is ) is never really casual as some people would have us think. It triggers emotional as well as physical responses, and it has a fallout.
Also, what if he fell in love with another girl? Wouldnt you feel bad if you two were still fooling around when you were both in your late teens or early twenties and had other mates? Then you would both be having a secret pre-marital or post marital affair. End this now. There's just too much at stake, and your self respect and reputation are on the line. You are better than this!!
Take Care.
buzzie
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truthfully, i think you should slowly end it. save your lovin for someone who's lovin you back. even if you don't like each other, unless he does and he just isnt telling you. but i think you should slowly end your affair before people start finding out because then you'll really be in trouble.
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I think you should stop. Save those things for someone who really loves you.
He will use you as long as you allow it. If you want more of a relationship with him...he has no reason to make you more than friends with benefits. If you don't care for him that way, then no sense letting him have his way. :)
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