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16/f My dad won't let me get my license until I turn 17. I don't think this is fair. I've been driving (with a learners permit) for a year now. I'm like the perfect daughter, and I make mostly A's in school. I've never gotten in any serious trouble. And I really need my license because my parents hate driving me everywhere, and so I'm always stuck at home and I feel so..restrained? I don't know if thats the right word. But it's been really depressing me, seeing as ALL my friends are or have gotten their license when they turn(ed) 16. But I'm the only one who won't be getting mine. I cry all the time when I think about it, I want my license soo badly. How can I talk my dad into letting me get my license? I need some good, real answers. Thanks.
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If you were my daughter I'd let you get your license.
I assume that your Dad is afraid that you will get into a car accident..it's a frightening thought, and I know what it feels like all to well.
Can you bargain with your father? Ask to take a drivers safety class. Tell him you will continue to get good grades and maintain a proper curfew. If you don't keep your end of the bargain he can stop you from driving if he wishes. Or perhaps if you get a job to pay for the insurance--then of course you will need to drive to go to work.
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Please don't rate me low--I don't have any advice for you, but I thought you might want to know why your dad is being so unfair. It has nothing to do with your driving or your maturity, and it isn't for lack of merit. I suspect he is just "irrationally" afraid you are going to be seriously injured or killed in an accident, and right now he can't bring himself to take responsibility for giving you permission to drive. He knows he can't keep you from behind the wheel forever, so he's just stalling by saying you have to be 17. Perhaps he's hoping that by your 17th birthday he will have worked up the courage to give you the keys and kiss you goodbye.
Perhaps if you described your "insight" into his private fear, and then told him you understand and can wait until 17, he will feel bad for holding you back and come around on his own. It's kind of a longshot, but it's worth a try. Sometimes changing somebody requires a paradoxical approach.
Dr. Chad
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I didn't get my license until I was seventeen, because I live in Jersey.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but just how can your dad STOP you from getting your advice? Obviously there's the problem of a car, but the actual license, I don't think you need anything from your parents.
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first i think you need to sit him down and find out exactly why he wont let you. he must have a good reason. you can really talk to him about getting it if you dont know a good reason why he wont let you have it. maybe hes afraid of you being out there alone without a year of expirience. or he knows someone who died in a car accident when they were 16. sit him down and tell him that you think you do deserve it and you really want to know why you can have it.. just dont scream at him.. sit and talk calmly to show your maturity. if you dont have a job maybe get one and even if your grades are good try bringing them up even higher.. it will really show him that you want this.. and maybe help him out more and remeber hes not doing it to make your live horrible. hes protecting you. trust me.. my parents wont let me get my license yet either and i just try to accept it because if i complain i know ill just have to wait longer
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Well don't cry to him about it because he'll think you're immature and probably won't listen. Have you asked him why he won't let you get your license till you're 17 even if you already have your permit?
Next time you're driving with him be the best driver you can be. Watch your speed, signal every time you should, don't run yellow lights, watch everything around you, ect. When you get home, ask him how he would rate your driving.
If it's a good comment ask him how comfortable he'd be with you driving on you're own and if he thinks you’re responsible enough.
Another thing, come up with reasons why it would benefit not only you but also your parents with you getting you're license. Like--how you can drive yourself around when they aren't feeling up to it, how you won't have to worry about getting a ride home from somewhere when they can't pick you up, etc.
And lastly, do NOT say anything about how all your friends already have theirs. He won't think much of that.
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Hey, umm there really isnt a way of tlaking your dad into it. Your just going to have to wait. I know its not what you would like to hear but its the right thing to do. But if you wish to go beyond my advice just sit down and have a talk with him. Even offer him to teach you how to drive so he feels comfortable with you on the road. If you want you cant explain to me why he will not let you get your license and drop a message in my inbox. Hope i hhave helped. Please rate.
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