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I Feel So BAD
I just pretty much broke my guy friend's heart. He has liked me for a really long time, and a couple days ago he just told me. I feel so bad because I feel like I lead him on...because he always comes to my locker every day (which kind of annoys me) and i even gave him a friendly hug one day just as a joke. But now I've realized as I've gotten to know him that he is just not what I'm looking for in a boyfriend. I'm not even sure I WANT a boyfriend. So now he is really different after i told him we should just be friends. he's sad, and talking about how hes never going to like another girl again. He'll probably continue to follow me around at school and I am trying to explain it to him the best i can but I've never really broke someones heart before. Any advice?
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he was bringing up the courage to do that for a long time. you cant just leave him. You have to talk to him privatley or soemthing.
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Just tell him that you dont want to be his girlfriend. You want to be the girl that talks to him and helps him out with other girls. That you want to be there as a friend and not take chances if yous go out that itll ruin your friendship. Also tell him thats the way it is and if he still wants you to be his friend he'll have to accept it or hes just going to push you away!
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Aw you should feel that bad. its not your fault you lead him on, you were just being friendly (i do that all the time) but anyway you should sit down with your guy friend and explain that you feel real bad about hurting his feelings and say that he will find the perfect girl one day and she will love him- but you two werent made for eachother
hope everything works out!
and i hope i helped
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Well, I'm a man, and I've had my heart broken when I was younger.
The best thing you can do is be completely honest. Be nice, but don't fudge the truth to spare his feelings - the most important thing is that he understands the way things are. That way, he won't suffer the dissapointment of getting his hopes up again.
And, if you ever do like him some day, for whatever reason, it would probably be best not to pursue him. Guys hate being jerked around.
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That has happened to me. I had a guy friend who just went through girl after girl after girl. I just thought he was a whore. He never seemed to stay and always found something wrong with the girl he was with.
He had told me that he liked me, but he was always drunk and he hits on girls when he is drunk, so I would just ignore him. We would go to the mall and go shopping. He loved to shop and do girly stuff. It was great. I had finally found a guy friend that wouldn't hit on me.
Until one night he decided that he needed to tell me that he had been in love with me since the day he met me and that he had gone through all of those girls because he was looking for a replacement for me. ---Yeah, I didn't know what to do, I felt awful because I knew that he meant it with his whole heart and I didn't have it in me to love him (or anyone for that matter)
I made him cry and that was the most sickening feeling ever. I would love to tell you that we are still friends, but it became very strained and weird. We were never the same, and eventually stopped talking. I hope that this doesn't happen to you and your friend, you can do your best to remain friends, and try to hook him up with someone else but, it all depends on how he deals with it. Some friendships don't survive unreturned feelings. I wish you luck.
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you need to tell him that just because he may have feelings for you, you dont have them for him and that their are plenty of other people out there for him. also you need to explain to him how you feel about him being at your locker and that you need your space..if he loves you that much he will understand.
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I WAS IN THAT SITUATION BEFOREEEEE oh man it's so difficult!! you juss have to tell him how you feel & i know you probably feel really bad about it & i did too, but you have to. it takes time & it is difficult but you juss have to say how you feel & maybe you can set him up. it depends how he is but the guy that liked me wouldn't even do that. he barely even looked at another girl but he got better at it. juss explain that you care for him as a friend but thats all for now & explain to him how you feel.
-hope that helped!♥
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