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no longer miss drama queen.
I want to become a nicer person and stop judging people and gossiping about them behind their backs. I constantly find myself doing these things even after I promised my self that I wouldn't. I've lost friends because of me being like this, and I want to be someone others can trust and be someone they can call a good friend. Do you guys have any tips on how to become that type of person?
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I think you should become friends or an aqquantance maybe to some one youd normally would gossip about or judge. Because then when you get to know them youll start to look past their flaws. SO then when youd talk to other people or see other people will flaws you wont notice as much and youll look past it!
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Heyy... Well maybe you could try thinking how the people who would have confinded in you might have felt after you gossiped about them.. and then maybe think well how would i feel and then just before you go to gossip think of how it would feel so then you would probably stop yourself. In time i'm sure everything will be sorted out! Good Luck :)x
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keep repeating it to yourself.. and pause before you ever talk.. that would give you time to think about what you are saying before you say it.. it really takes alot of time and displine but it will happen. try doing around the house first like tell your parents or siblings to make you give them a dollar or something for everytime you gossip or say something negative abotu soemone in your house.. eventually it will help you control what you say to other people. eventually you will grow out of it too. its like a huge middle school thing and even early highschool but eventually its gets old and everyone just kinda stops
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i went through the SAME thing.
what you do is like FIRST right it down.
like on a piece of paper. something like. "i want to be the person who people talk to not about" and like tape it on your wall were youll see it. that way you remind youself.
2nd. instead of telling OTHER people the secrects you hear. write it down in like a dairy. that way your letting it out and no one has to hear! or write down what you think.
3rd. one way you can make sure you dont talk about people. dont let other people talk about other people infront of you. [[ if that makes sense?]] you have to be totally dedicated to becoming the person you want to be. no one likes a blabber mouth or a shit talker.
4th find some1 eles who is EXCATALLY like that. and sorta let it be your motivation. like okay i dont want to end up like that person. and if u cant. Heres one.
this chick at my school. was a MAJOR blabber mouth and talked shit about EVERYONE and all of her friends were two faced to her. like shed tell them stuff and theyd tell the world! not even kidding. everyone was sick of her and didnt want to deal with her shit anymore. so basically now no one likes her. and her only friends are the people who hardly know her enough to say ne thing.
hopes this helps
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Everytime you find yourself saying something like gossiping,rude remarks,judging.Stop yourself, It may take awhile but try not to. People may not immediatly want to be your friend if you stop. Changing somones opinion about somone takes awhile.
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Here is a tip
STOP DOING EVERYTHING THAT YOU DID BEFORE!!!
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