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sorry so long..but please answer..i need help
hi! well im 15/f
and yeah my family doesnt think i have any friends...BECAUSE my cousin always wants to do something with me like hang out..she doesnt have very many pepole to hang out with...and like so i have to spend all my time with her it seems..i just met this girl and we clicked right away! i mean we are pretty good friends now..i dont really hang out with anyone really..except my cousin and this girl that i was talking about earlier..and so my bro comes home today and is like yeahhhh susie (my aunt) said she is worried about you because you have no friends..i mean i always wanna go out and do things! party it up! but i never get invited to parties..im not outgoing..and i dono i guess i really dont have THAT many friends..well i do..in school..but i dont hang out with many and today my cousin is like yeah my my was gonna ask if i could spend the weekend with you since they're gonna be gone and im like..oh? and then she is like Nevermind!! my dad is gonna be home..you can just spend the weekend here then..and so now like i guess i have to sleepover there friday and saturday and then hang out on sunday too..and i didnt wanna be like yeah i dont wanna hang out with youu! so i was like umm okay? but that takes up my WHOLE weekend and we like never do anything there..i even told her we are gonna go out and do something!!! because she always sits on the computer..and im like we are gonna go to a movie or something..just party it up! and then she is like i kno..but what are we gonna do? and at her school..they're are alot of hotties but she isnt exactly the 'popular' type.. sorry not to be mean..but she isnt? i can tell..and so she doesnt have like hardly any friends..and like NO guy friends :( me either thO! and i wanna hang out with guys..and shes like well on the computer we can ask a whole buncha people including this kid that i think is hott...and he is pretty popular i guess..and im thinking he is gonna try and make up an excuse not to go..or say he has other plans..and i hear this girl that is like very popular and gorgeous that this kid i think is hott..is going to the movies this weekend too..so im scared their gonna ask this kid to go..and alot of other people then nobody will wanna go when we doo..and the kid always flirts with this girl and it BUGS me..i wanna meet hiM!!! thats why i want to like go to a movie or something..but i know if my cousin asks he wont (sorry mean?) but its true! and i dont know anyone else that knows him.. and on friday my cousin plays hockey and she is like OH SHOOT..i have a hockey game at like 530 and they usually have to watch varsity too..so there goes our friday night you know?..UGH this is very very confusing i cant meet new people thru my cousin..she dont kno anyone..but i wanna go out and have fun! neither of us have cars..and her dad works till like 6 every night..and i dono if he would even wanna bring us anywhere..and yeahhhH! please dont say hang out with my friends..because i dont hang out with many people either..woahhh sorry SO LONG really!! its just lately this has been bothering me..
SORRY SO LONG AGAIN!!!
BUT THANKS FOR ANSWERING :)
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Well, first off. You can't let your cousin run your life, wether she has no one to hang out with or not. You need to definitly take a break from her if you ask my opinion. It doesn't seem like you have any communication problems, it's just that you need to get out MORE. If you seem to meet new people at your school, try planning something with them over the weekend, movies, mall ect. More new friends leads to even more friends, soon enough you'll feel a lot better. You just need to act yourself, don't try and fit in, but still talk to your cousin. Sure, hanging out with her once in a while is fine, but don't make it stressful and an every day thing. I know if i were you i wouldn't wanna do the same thing either. I really don't know what else to say, but take my advice. It will be for the best. :) Take care.
♥ Alli
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Well, I have just two close female friends and three semi-close guy friends. I am not "popular" at all. Though at my school, we're not really divided into groups like that. But even s, my two girl friends that I mentioned? One likes to party TOO MUCH for my tastes, the other doesn't like going out at all. Sometimes it bothers me, and I get lonely. But that's life. So...you don't have cars, huh? Is there anything fun to do in walking distance? Like a mall or something? If there is, it's fun to get all dolled up and just walk around the mall together (I mean with your cousin). There is more to life than being popular! Just be yourself and be happy with that. You sound very insecure about yourself...you should get over that. Embrace your inner Goddess; be beautiful. Okay, enough of that sappy stuff (though I still think you should do it!!!) Have you tried talking to this popular boy? Maybe he is more approachable than you think. And if he's not, you might be able to get to know a bunch of un=popular people who are still really cool and great to hang out with.I think the way you feel about your cousin is understandable. You spend a lot of time with her; it's easy to get sick of people that way. I often end up getting sick of my friends. Try to spend some time away from her to vent.
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well, tell your cousin how you feel. try to make other plans, way in advance, like a few days, even a week in advance, and tell your cousin that you cant do anything because you already have plans. Then maybe you could try to include your cousin in some of your activities that you do with other friends. Like try to get your cousin and your friends together for a day! that would be fun!! Maybe even try to get your friends to invite some guys along!!
Im note sure if that was what you were asking, but if it isnt, please leave one in my inbox! and I would be happy to answer differently.
Hope I Helped!
GOOD LUCKK!
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i don't even know what the heck you're asking. that was just.. way too long and pointless. it seemed like you just needed to vent. get a livejournal. you can write this stuff there.
you have to understand that i can't tell you what to do with your weekend, or to tell you to say no to your cousin, or tell you how to get friends. the "hott guy" likes the "hott girl", he probably doesn't even know who you are. you are telling me that you don't have any friends, so.. go get some. that's really all i can say, and yeah, it's pretty mean, but what else did you want? you just rambled on and on about crap in your question. and it didn't make much sense.
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i'm not exactly sure what you're asking for. i see what you mean with the whole cousin thing, because i was in that situation too. meeting people can be REALLY easy because if you go to a new event such as sports, clubs, etc. you can meet new people & hang out with them. don't try to like exclude your cousin er something. try making new friends in sports er clubs & then see if you can hang out with her & your cousin. like bring your friend along. that way you guys can all hang out together & he/she can meet your family & they'll see that you do have friends. meeting guys is actually pretty simple & this probably sounds weird but becoming friends with guys is like 100x easier than becoming friends with girls. why?? girls are too picky!! idk why but they really are. juss go to your schools sporting event & see. start up conversations about games, school, friends, etc. try getting your cousin out've the house. in HS you should be having fun, because you have a lot less responsiblity then a college student er someone that is in their 20's. juss try hanging out different places with new people.
-hope that helped!♥
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--oh its okay that its so long, one thing i think you should do is get to know people at school better. you can ask if they want to come over and hang out one day.if they say no, theyre probably busy. just ask someone else then. even if you dont know these people very well, you will get to know them if you hang out with them. try taking your cousin to some school things like basketball games and whatnot. if she says she doesnt want to, then just tell her that you had your heart set on going and go without her. she might even change her mind and go with you, because she seems like the person who gets what she wants easily and you need to show her that shes not.
--if your shy at talking to people, try and compliment them on something(shirt shoes, necklace) especially something in common like if they have a band shirt on.
--another thing you could do is get a myspace, or if you already have one, ask to be some peoples friends that go to your school. if you dont know them, the best way to open up is to comment their pictures or ask how its going or do their stupid little quizzes that them post in a bulliten or blog. thats how i met a lot of my friends i have today.
--as for your cousin, tell her that you want to stay home this weekend. you could say that you have a project, or that you dont feel like a sleepover that weekend.
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