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stupid question.. yes they do exist..
I'm dating a good Christian boy.. it's been more than 2 months now. He's great in every way, however, all our convos are really "mushy" and "romantic" I guess I am pretty 'innocent' however, I sorta want to spice up our relationship a bit. We never talk 'kinky' or any of the sort. It might be because he's religious.. although that seems like a bit of an excuse. I'm just getting a bit bored, is all.
Is this a stupid request? How can I bring this up to him? Do most people talk kinky with their boyfriend/girlfriends? I'm a little ignorant to all this. Thanks everyone, though.
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my bf goes to church all the time too and we have talked about this kind of stuff. we know eachothers limits i guess if thats what you wanna call it. we have been going out for 7 months and i tell him when i am bored with our status and he usually agrees. it really helps. i think it really depends on your age and how long youve been together. if this is something that is easy for you to talk about then talk to him about it. and if its not then talk to one of his guy friends and have him ask your bf about it. if hes just shy about it then you do something first! although mushy conversations are always good! lol! i hope i helped!
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ok so this is really weird but i was actually in this situation with a not-so-christian boy. it's ot just that he is... its that he just hasn't. trust me, christian boys arent hard to loosen up their whole lives. so you wanna talk dirty... next time you are on the phone or something bring it up. talk late at night..that usually gets them going. BUT BEWARE: if he doesn't masturbate or doesn't want you to know about it (you've ben together 2 months...it's not something you talk about often.) you'll just get him horny and he'll pretty much have no choice and that could be sinning to him so you might wanna talk to him first. <3
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I'm not sure exactly what it is you want from your boyfriend when you say 'kinky' which makes me think he probably doesn't know either.
The best thing you can do it talk to him about it. If you know he is religious then he might have a problem giving you what you want and you do need to be sensitive to that. Calling his religion an excuse, even indirectly, might deeply insult him.
When talking to him, you really need to be more specific on your definition of kinky. Do you just want to be told you're hot and beautiful? Or are you looking to talk kinky like phone sex kinky?
Being specific with your wants and issues will help him to form a response.
I know many people who speak in sexual ways with their partners, I know some people who probably never do. It is completely based on what is comfortable and healthy for the people in the relationship.
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Hmmmm... that kinda hard but try hanging out with him more and like make kinky jokes and see how he reacts or just talk to him one on one and see where he's coming from. I don't know about most people but I don't I personally think that'll come like wayy later in your relation ship or for strippers lol but if you don't feel anything for him anymore because he won't get kinky or anything break up cause you shouldn't stay together if there's nothing between you two
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Umm... I'm a Christian, as is my boyfriend, and we NEVER have talked "kinky." Sure, sometimes it's a little "romantic" or "mushy," as you say, but never... uh.. kinky.
Getting a bit bored? Try to get to know him on a new level. Make him your best friend. Know everything about him. Tell him your depest thoughts, hopes, dreams, feelings. You'll not be bored.
-FunnyCide
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Um.. I don't really know what kinky means, but I don't understand why you're bored!Most people wish their boyfriend would talk romantic!Consider yourself lucky. Maybe you could 'spice up your conversations' by bringing up things you like to do, or just about stuff. You could just say, hey listen I like our conversations but sometimes I get bored cuz they're always mushy..its not a bad thing I like it, its just thats all we talk about. He'll understand.. just sound sweet and not aggrivated. I really dont know if that will help but I hope it did somehow.
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