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a friend with benefits...

Question Posted Sunday November 27 2005, 7:07 pm

i'm a guy, 14 yrs. old. here's my dilemma. this girl has a boyfriend right, and everyday in class we hug and talk till class starts. she doesn't even act like she has one. my question is what do i do now, i'm totally clueless.

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onlyme answered Friday December 30 2005, 2:32 pm:
well clearly she is a big flirt and I know alot of people that flirt when they have a boyfriend or girlfriend and sometimes they just can't help it, it is just their personality. But maybe she looks at you as a good friend

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confusedbabii answered Monday November 28 2005, 8:14 pm:
she's a girl. she flirts with may not be intentionally, but some girls are naturally flirty and don't notice that they lead people on. i'm guessing that she thinks of you as a really good guy friend, so take it easy, don't get worked up, and be there for her. hope i helped

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PerkyPeacock answered Monday November 28 2005, 1:45 am:
first off, you're not a friend with benefits.
unless your tongue has come in contact with any part of her body, you're not a friend with benefits.

anyway, bring it up in a joking manner, like if she does something overtly single, kinda laugh and play it off, but bring up the fact that she has a boy. watch for her reaction. then go from there

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IgIvEnGeTaDvIcEtOo answered Sunday November 27 2005, 8:18 pm:
ask her if she really likes you but don't be too pushy because she will get scared and will leave and probably won't like you anymore but still show her you like her

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sillyrob answered Sunday November 27 2005, 8:18 pm:
You do realize that guys and girls can hug without dating...right?

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kailey answered Sunday November 27 2005, 8:08 pm:
She probably just thinks of you as close friends. It's hard, but since she has a boyfriend, you need to respect that & stay out of his territory.

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xOchErrytWistOx answered Sunday November 27 2005, 7:56 pm:
Talking and hugging are just part of this girl's nature. She thinks of you just as a friend. She's treating you like she probably treats all her other guy/girl friends. If she has a boyfriend, she probably likes him. Still confused? Ask her about her boyfriend. Ask how the relationship is or just something as simple as "how's your boyfriend". It's a neutural subject that you can always turn around without saying I LIKE YOU especially if she's def into her boyfriend. If she replies with something like "things arent well" or maybe even "i dont have a boyfriend" then tell her how you feel. If she says things are great, stay friends and fall for another girl.

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Annerszz_101 answered Sunday November 27 2005, 7:37 pm:
She just sees you as a friend hun. We always hug our guy friends, sooner or later she'll like you. Always happens!

^^ PLEASE let me know if I helped you or not!
**hope it works out!**
x-O Annerszz_101 x-O

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MissJessicaPaige answered Sunday November 27 2005, 7:18 pm:
Honey, she's just flirty. Maybe she likes you, but I doubt it. But, if you make a move, things could get awkward between both of you. Just continue doing what your doing,..just dont make out with her or anything more...

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