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As stated in my profile. I have been told that I give good advice but I cant take my own.
*Well I've been with my Boyfriend for awhile now, and we are completly happy. He calls me each and everyday and tells me he loves me. And its only every so often that we go a day without seeing each other. I love him to death, i really do.
So lately I've been telling him I want to be with him for a very long time, and he always grabs my hand and smiles and says we have a long time left together babe.
Well at a young age I was rapped by an older guy and then, I actually gave another guy a chance and slept with him and then he cheated on me and broke up with me because I was too insecure.
And this is the Second guy since the incident that I've slept with and he's been there and loved me and hasnt giving me a reason to doubt him. But it's like Im scared of losing the love of my life. I swear every man that I've every loved I've lost...My dad died when i was 13!
Well today I was quiet and he looked me in the eyes and asked me what was wrong and i got all teary eyed and said I dont want to lose you...and he was quiet and said dont think that way i love you and only you and dont want anyone else, dont think your going to lose me we've still got along time together...well you think that would make me feel better right? Well it didnt, im still iffy....
We are leaving to go to mexico tomorrow with my family for about 4 days and then December 18 we are leaving to New Hampshire to stay with his family for two weeks...so i know he is pretty serious about me but Im still scared...i dont know what it is i trust him to death but idk....
-I'm not looking for the answer of: Don't think of him as all the other relationships. Or dont freak out about him, dont be so insecure it'll be okay...i need some serious advice...-
please help*
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Hi There. I'm not sure if I entirely understand the kind of answer you're looking for. It seems like while you praise your boyfriend and say how much you love him desperately, you also pick him apart and are looking for the wrong. You can't spend your relationship anticipating some sort of inevitable demise. That ALONE could be enough to end it.
This guy doesn't seem to have shown you any sign that he's trying to bolt. Keep an open communication with him. Ask him if he is happy. Ask him if there is anything he would like to be different. But when you get hysterical and start accusing him of things like "I know you're going to leave me or cheat on me" you're pushing him away. There are people that push away to avoid being dissapointed or abandoned. If you choose to live your life like this, it will only lead to more loneliness.
Love is a gamble. You take a chance, you invest your time, you give your emotion. With almost every relationship there is pain and loss to some degree. And there are also relationships and companionship and memories.
Don't condemn this guy to being another jerk in your life before he even gets the chance. Let him show you there are people out there that are worth taking a chance on.
Best of Luck,
Anne Nonimous
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well i know your not looking for an answer of dont look at him as all the other relationships but thats exactly what you need to do. if hes takin you to meet his family and hes takin the time to meet yours hes serious about your relationship. if hes slept with you and hasnt left you then hes serious about you. stop thinkin negatively. think about all the good times you've had together and all the times your gonna have together in the future. tell him what he means to you and he will do the same in return then you will know hes not like all the other guys. i hope i helped.
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you need to sit your boyfriend down and tell him hwo you feel about all of this. explain to how muich you care abotu adn what si going through ur head. your boyfriend will help you get through it no matter what it takes. trust me the only thing he wants is to make the love of his life happy and see you with a smile on your face.
*~Stephanie~*
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Ok,
here is the deal what i think you should do is tell him the truth about sleepin with another guy cause once he finds out he is going to start to wonder why you are not telling him things, i am sure when you try and talk to him he will love you even more cause you were honest with him, u should really consider staying with him because he loves you and you are happy together not with that other guy that dumped you and probably used you, so just try and take my advice about talkin 2 him, it is the best thing to do when you are very serious about eachother...loves
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