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this isn't your ordinary love question..
15/f & 16/m (both are 16)
***THIS IS LONG!!***
I was dating this one guy named *Dustin* for about 1 year and a half. We both had sex and we were each other's first.
Well that was about 2 years ago. After we broke up, we decided to stay really good friends. But now i've been dating this one guy named *Brandon* for about 8 months. Everything is perfect, but it seems like *Dustin* is jealous. But he hasn't exactly told me. You can just tell though. And he still is ever since I started dating.
*Brandon* invited me to a family trip hes taking. And we were planning on having sex there. Somehow the word got out & *Dustin* found out and was crushed. He got soo mad at me and soo jealous! He was practically calling me a slut and a whore. I was soo sad that he said that. And of course Brandon knew what Dustin said that so he came over the same day and he was just there for me saying how it was okay and how he loved me and stuff. Brandon of course knew about me and Dustin's relationship. And I can just tell that he thought we should belong together(me and Dustin). But i made sure that Brandon knew i loved being with him.
The next day Dustin CAME OVER my house IN THE RAIN riding his retarded little bike and knocked on my door. He was saying how he was soo sorry for saying that and it just made me cry seeing him so hurt! Then *Dustin* grabbed me and started kissing me. Now remember, i was still with *Brandon*. I NEVER TOLD ANYONE WHAT HAPPENED! I didn't want anyone to find out and having it eventually getting to Brandon. So we are still going on the family trip. =\. And still planning on having sex. Dustin thought it was going to change something(the kiss), but it really hasn't. I mean, i just couldn't tell Brandon what happened because i knew it would crush him! They both are really great guys. But when i was dating Dustin, he cheated on me & that really hurted me since i put soo much trust in him. Brandon NEVER did anything to question our relationship. But Dustin just made me feel really better about myself & stuff. He always did cute little things for me.
*Problem*- The family trip is tomorrow & i just need to decide. Should i stay here with Dustin & break it off with Brandon? Or should i go with Brandon to the family trip and end up having sex?...Ah its totally freaking me out! I have the choice if we want to have sex at the trip.Brandon will totally understand since hes caring/nice like that.
I have no idea what to do! Brandon's family really likes me too and it would crush them if i broke up with Brandon. Nobody really accepted Dustin, but he's just so perfect for me. But so is Brandon. What do you guys think? Please help me. I feel soo stuck and confused! =( Thank you so much.
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Wow this is a very very hard situation. The best advice I can give is:
Search deep inside your heart and think about each and every feeling you have. Decided by following your heart. Don't let your family or their families influence your decision. In the long run your just gonna hurt yourself and either Dustin or Brandon. To me it sounds more like you want Brandon but have some slight feelings for Dustin..but to me they only sound like feeelings cause you dated him once before. I would stick with the new guy. If you want more advice Im me at Mirokusbbysango or email me at Tearsintherain08@yahoo.com
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Hmm, it seems to me that these 2 guys both care alot about you..but you cant lett your familyy and the boy your dateingg now's familyy make your decisionn..You have to listenn to your heartt and askk your selff who do you really wantt to be w/ &&for what reasons. Make suree whoever you choose.. your w/ for the right reasons &¬ the wrong ones.
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If you can't decide...FORGET ABOUT IT! You don't want to end up with the wrong guy!
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Flip a coin, but I think that if it's heads Brandon wins, tails Dustin loses.
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its ultimatly up to you. dont stay in the relationship with the guy your with right now if your just doing it to make him happy so you can feel good about yourself. and if his family likes your great but if your not as happy as you think you should be then you need to end it. if you think that if you went back to your first that you would feel better do it. I just want you to know that you will always feel a connection to your first until you do it again. just relax i know you dont have much of a time span to think about things but i dont think you should sleep with the guy because i think that will just cause more drama going on in your head...
relax and think who makes you happier? honestly who made you feel the best about yourself? who held your hand and made you feel like you were not afraid of anything?
of course you are going to be really attached to your first as i stated above but is that who you truely want to be with?? he is going to make you feel bad about yourself because he wants you back but think about the situation flipped around how do you think you would feel.
remember your still young and you still have alot to learn...so dont sleep with this other guy just yet...i really think that would be a mistake and make things alot harfer on you...
hope i was of some help
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