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What does she really mean?
I asked a girl to the winter formal dance a few days ago. She got really excited and was taken totally surprised and started bragging to all of her friends. Her actual words were "Let me check my schedule to be sure that I don't have something, but it sounds like a lot of fun." Oh my goodness thank you for asking me. Hug. Here I am thinking SCORE!
Well, aparrently not. The next day she pulls me aside and says that she's really sorry but she has something that night that she absolutely cannot get out of (independly confirmed, she really does have something that she can't get out of). Oh my goodness, she's so sorry, she was so excited to get asked that she told all of her friends. I'm a really nice guy. If there was another dance ("You're a Junior, right?" read: PROM) she'd be honored to go. She feels so sorry and she's really bad at this because she's never been asked to anything before and she's so sorry she doesn't know what she's doing. I made her day/week/month. Etc. Etc. So I mention that maybe there's something else she might want to do another night. She says "Well, there's plenty of time to think about that." Bounds off.
I am really confused. Do I cut my losses and move on or is she interested? How do I approach the situation when I run into her tomorrow? If she's interested will she come after me now or what? I don't want to be the guy that can't take the hint, but at the same time... I really don't understand what just happened.
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i would try and talk to her make sure she knows that if she really dont like you she shouldnt act like she does that you would be happier without her knowing she was happy then with her knowign she trully doesnt like you at all.
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hmmmm, confusing, have you considered maybe it's because of her parents she "has something to do", it seems as if sh is avoiding you, but not to get away from you, let me know more about this if you can and i can try to help more, your welcome to e mail me,
Jasmine,
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hey! well it was really nice of you to ask her out, and it sounds like she likes the idea of it too. i think that if you asked her out again she would most likely agree(if nothing was going on) however if you ask her like 4 times in a row and each time she comes up with a different excuse, maybe you should move on. but right now dont give up!
xoxo helpachick
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shes interested, but afraid. see you gotta understand something about chicks my friend. they like, no they love to be seen as something worthwhile and great. and in asking her to the dance she was totally flattered and i'd say instantly enamored, but at the same time a chick though loving that feeling can be as finnicky as a fish in a pond staring at your bait but not biting. you've got to ask yourself "is it worth the wait" cause even if you approach her an talk to her, and ask her out the fact is she will still be very finicky and if you're friends with her liklihood is she'll pull that "i don't want to damage our friendship" line girls, especially teenage girls will do this to a guy and not even know the consequences of such a line simply because they don't feel what the guy feels and don't know the intensity of his feelings or his emotions. and so they'll treat it as nothing whereas a guy will be wounded and hurt and not want anything to do with her after that point,
i say play it cool. talk to her about random things, make small talk just to warm her up and get her closer to the subject, then ask her if she'd like to do something with you on the weekend or some such day. and based on her answer then that's what you do. though i fear with this girl "plans that can't be broken" are a defense mechanism to keep her hopes from being brokenand the only way to get through that is to make plans for something weeks in advance and hold her to it and then show up the day of said plans ready to roll no matter how hesitant and skiddish she may be you gotta be the motivational force to get her out there with you. and most of all don't chicken out. play the game cool and easy and at the same time you've got to be a man about it and put your foot down on the date you have set. don't let her weasel out of it unless the reason is something ranging from sickness to death. pick a random day weeks ahead of time and ask to go out with her that day then hold her to it and you'll get a date, and most likely get her out of her defensive sheild around matters like that altogether. women are tricky things, but not impossible. it just takes strategy.
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i think you might have to approach her..Wow this girl sounds annoying.. But maybe thats something you find cute dunno.. But Yea hun I`d ask her to do something with you one day ask her to pick the specific day if she actually wants to do it.. Like get something to eat after school to talk *cheap food mcdonalds or something*..go to the movies..chill at one of eachothers houses or something.. If she blows you off i`d toss her aside and find another girl.. ♥ Dez
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Uhh
This girl kind of annoys me
and I don't even know her.
But uh...
Just go up to her and be all
"Hey what's up"
I'm pretty sure she'll fill in the blanks if she's interested.
--Social Suicide
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She won't come after you. You'll have to ask yet again.
I would ask her to a movie or something like that. If she can't go. Find someone who isn't so busy.
Your guess that she may have been angling for a prom date could be true. If she won't go out with you any other time...no prom for her.
Tell her to bring her appointment book in so you can pick a day to go to the movies.
Good luck with it. If the dance hasn't been held yet, ask someone else. Let her know you aren't going to wait around for her. :)
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By her response to your question, she sounded really excited (obviously). and it sounds like she's willing to go to the next dance/formal/prom with you, so i say go for it if you really like this girl.
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