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My mom
Sorry if it`s long I`ll rate 5`s!
I love my mom and all but she really bothers me. I am 13 and I`m kind of mature for my age. My mom said I could get my belly button peirced a yeah ago and she said yeah after I turned 13 and now shes saying no. I turned 13 April 25th and its so unfair I`m getting to really hate her so now she asked " What do you want for Christmas?" and I said. " A new cell phone and a my belly button peirced" and she goes "Your not getting neither your phone is fine."
My phone is a peice of sh1t and falls apart like 5 times a day. And I really want my belly button peirced and she said yeah last year so it`s completely unfair. My little brother gets everything he wants its unfair to me.
How can I convince her to let me get my belly button peirced? And how can I explain that she is unfair to me?
Thanks in advance. I`ll rate 5`s!!
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here's the thing, your parents lie to you sometimes. that whole santa claus/ easter bunny thing, you might want to look into that. really, one day you might find out that your mom might actually be a ordanary person who doesn't have all the answers and sometimes they have to make stuff up just so they don't have a stroke trying to come up with the right thing to say...
some things you might want to consider:
-have you ever asked how old your mom was when she got her first cell phone? i bet it wasn't 12. people got along without them once. so can you!
-maybe your brother gets more things because your brother needs more help. not always needing things and being able to take care of yourself is a good example of maturity. way to go!
in life, there is always going to be someone who has it better than you basing your happiness on someone else's life will seldom make you happier.
-you're going to have your belly button your whole life. where's the fire? you're 13, in the next three to five years, you are probably going to go through things that will make you wish your problems were this simple. besides, unless you're super into gymnastics or a midget (and there's nothing wrong with that) you're probably going to grow up or out a bit in the next couple of years and that ring you put on might cause more problems. whatever you do, try not to get all crazy and peirce it yourself. peircings gone wrong always look kinda pathetic and can be hard to live down.
but if you really need that phone and that belly button ring, your final answer lies in your first sentence. get good grades and don't get into trouble so your mom can't hold that against you, then go get a job and save up some to your own money and see if she'll spit it with you. no? then save up more money and buy that stuff yourself and feel good about it. your mom might actually be impressed. so will i.
good luck
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try to compromise. ask just for one of those, which is prolly the cell phone. your really too young for a belly button ring, no matter how "mature" you think you are. even if you are, which you dont sound like you are (mature people wouldn't whine about there brother all the time), your body isn't done growing, and then your piercing will pop out and leave a scar.
on the other hand, it sounds like you DO need a new phone. what brand is it? a good brand i can think of is samsung, but thats just because thats my brand. also, if youre looking for a bar phone (a NOT flip phone) then nokia is good. explain to your mom how bad your old phone is. also, you could tell her that you know you won't be getting much more, because a cell phone is a pretty big present. or, you could offer to help pay for it. hope i helped! ♥
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You really should wait until you are atleast 16 to get your belly button pierced. I live in PA and they made it a law that you can't get it done until you are 16. I tried getting it done last year (when I was 14). They said they made the law because your body isn't done growing yet, so as you grow taller or fatter, it will tear the belly ring right out. Then not only will you have a scar forever, but it will be hard to get it pierced again in the future.
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No offense but it's really not the end of the world if you can't have either of these things. If you're mature for your age- then use some introspection and realize that you're being pretty materialistic. You're going to look back on what's happening now in a few years and laugh at yourself for making such a big deal over this. I have friends that would kill to even have a cell phone at all, even if it was one that broke all the time. Trust me, it could be a lot worse. Quit whining and enjoy what you have and the fact that you even have a mother at all.
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Well, this is all a part of growing up. Your mother may have said yes a year ago thinking that you would probably change your mind and want something else by the time your 13th birthday came along. This time it backfired on her. Most parents use this technique to keep peace. Why argue about it now when in a year you will move on to wanting something else. Your mother may think that you are too young to have your belly button pierced. It is a very sexy thing to do. She may not think you are ready to fend off the kind of advances that will ensue if you were to adorne this sexy statement. Your mother is probably not worried about young men your age. She is worried about older men. Their perception of you will be that you are much older than you are if they were to see this. She's probably worried that you will find yourself in the kind of trouble that you can't emagine and to be honest I don't think she wants you to ever have to. She probably wants you to enjoy your youth for as long as you can because once it is gone, that's it. You may want to rush things (I know I did), but once you are out of your youth you will miss the simplicity of it. When you become older you will wish that your biggest problem be convincing your mother to let you have your belly button pierced. Be patient with your mother. She's doing the best she can and she is trying to take the best care of you as possible. When I was your age my mother did some things very similar to what your's is doing. I felt just like you. It is very confusing. Here's this person who you have looked up to and learned lessons of proper behavior from and she is doing something that you are told you are not suppose to do. You feel betrayed, lied to and mislead. Also, about your brother. He's probably not asking for things outside his age level. That's why it appears he gets anything he wants. I had a younger brother too. How aggravating they can be. I have a suggestion for you. What I think you should do is ask your mother if you could have a talk with her. Don't be confrontational. Be nice in your tone of voice. Let her know that you've discovered that it is possible that she may have used the technique of saying yes to something thinking that in a year it would go away. Ask her if this is what she was doing. Ask her when she truly does think it will be ok for you to do this. Explain to her this is not going to go away, but you realize what her fears may be with this. Ask her to help you to understand why she doesn't want you to do this now. Politely listen to her without interruption. Then renegotiate with her. Ask her what timeline she think is appropriate. If you don't like what you hear, don't get mad. Try for something in the middle of what you want and she wants. If she's adamant, don't argue. You have plenty of time to work on her. At least you will then know exactly where things stand. You can't overcome objections if you don't know what those objections are. If your real sweet and understanding about it and you show your mother that you are open to her viewpoint. Then, you will be coming across mature to her. You will be on your way to convincing her that you are mature enough to have your belly button pierced. It could be that she will at least give you the phone you want for this christmas. As aggravated as you are with her, she is also with you. This may be a reason she is not giving in to anything you want for christmans. There was a saying that my parents use to say all the time to me when I was trying to get things my way. It goes like this, "It is easier to attract flys to honey." I hope I have helped.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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I think you need to have a little chat with your mom. You need to tell her that it is unfair that your brother gets what he wants, and you don't get anything you want, or deserve. She probably is just scared that your belly button will get infected and stuff like that. Tell her that getting it pierced at an actual peircing place is much much more safe than doing it yourself. That is what I told my mom when she said no to me.. and it worked. As for your cell phone, you should show her how crappy it is. You could say you'll pay for half of the cell phone/belly button piercing. I hope I helped.
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I have the same problem with my mom .. she gives mi younger sister what she wants but not me .. well anyways you sould sit down and talk to her .. ask her why she said you can get it done last year and not this year. but dont get to agravated and mad because most of the time when you have a temper they say no to eveything.( thats usually what happens to me) So tell her that you dont really think its fair she said you could last year and now your older and you still want a belly botten periced and she said no. The best thing to do is talk to her about it.. I hope that works..
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Hey, no worries about the rating - I answer because I want to help! :)
Why not tell her that you feel betrayed because it feels like she lied to you and just said "yes" last year to shut you up? Sit down and talk to her and explain calmy that your phone is falling to pieces, even show it to her if you must.
Best of luck, I know it isn't easy!
x Steph x
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