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abby...
my friend abby is in the tenth grade, and her older sister and boyfriend just commited suicide together on saturday(nov.5) and today..abby wasnt at school (no suprise) how long do you think it will be until abby comes back? abby is the kind of person that if she's really depressed she'll start cutting herself... how can i tell (besides the odvious cut scars)if she has?, what can i do to comfort her, (i only see her in latin, because i sit behind her, and she's a couple grades older than me, so i dont see her after school) i just dont want to make things worse for her. she's a really great person, but a little misunderstood by adults... HELP!!! any advice or help will get you a 5 cause i dont know what to do!
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That's a hard thing to help out with. People react different in tough situations, some people want everybody to leave them alone, some people want everybody to comfort them, and some people pretend that they want to be left alone but really WANT to be comforted. Some people hate when people say their "sorry for their loss" because it reminds them of it when their trying to move on with thier lives. Just make sure your there for Abby if she needs to talk. If she looks sad, make a joke, or say something that will make her smile, comfort her without reminding her. Good luck
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Hey, listen, I'm not bothered about the rating but I think you should write a letter to her, saying that you will be there for her no matter what. Distinguishing self harm marks/scars may be difficult but you don't necessarily need to prove it, just make sure she has your support.
x Steph x
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If you want to talk more or anything, you can always add me on MSN. Hope I've helped and best of luck with this and the rest of your life! :)
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The only thing you can do is comfort her andtell you are there if she wants to talk. A person needs comeone to be there for them when they are going through a tough time. I think it will take about a week or so. But i think that being wit ther family is helping her through this situation. And if you dont give up you wil succeed. If you believe and try your ardest you can accomplish anything
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There is no doubt in my mind that Abby won't be back for a long time. If you know that she uses self destruction to cope, you have to tell her parents, because not only is she going to take a very long time to get over this, but shes in danger when shes cutting. On top of cutting and having her sister gone, her grades will be going down seriously even though it will be excused in school. If you want to know if shes ok, then you have to call, or write her a letter and make sure it gets to her. Don't try and give up on her though, you have to be concerned about the ones who withdrawl themselves from the pain and try dealing on their own. She sounds like she'll out of school for a very long time, so go ahead and talk to her mom or dad about her cutting issue, because thats taking just one more danger and stress off of her life. Whether she decides to speak to you again or not, you will doing the right thing and she'll thank you way later when she realizes who she gave up. She may not come back to you years later and thank you, but she'll do it to herself. It doesn't matter how misunderstood you think she is by adults, her parents will help her through this, as they have to help themselves. Which is another reason why you need to talk to her or write to her. When her parents just can't help her, or be there because they are hurting too much, you can be there to talk to her about it. Don't give up on your friend, shes going to have really rough times ahead, so you have to be able to take that in and understand when she just doesn't want to talk to anyone.
-TheTeenGirl
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No one will know when she'll come back but herself. She just had an extremely tragic event in her life and there is no telling when she will be over it enough to come back out into the real world. The most you can do is be there for her and talk to her and comfort her.
If she starts wearing long sleeved shirts and tends to rub her wrists alot, then you can probably tell that she is a cutter.
If you see her outside of school, make an effor to come over and help her out with things. Just be there. A true friend knows how to be there for their friend.
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Okay Call her mom and say is abby okay and stuff like that and talk to her and say hey you kno you got friends hear @ school and i will take care of you and everything like that and tell her that you love her (AS A FRIEND ) and then she might come 2 school??? maybe
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just, be there for her. thats all that matters. tell her that you care, and that you want her to feel better. and that you want her to be able to get over her pain and that she'll always have you as a support system
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