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Friends being retarded
Well I have a new boyfriend and my best friend is acting really weird like she’s saying that I am a leaving her for him but I m not!! What the hell is her problem? Why is she saying this I mean he’s a new boyfriend and its that honeymoon stage where your excited aand she doesn’t understand and I hate the way she’s acting like today in the library I she wanted me to go to her class for 10 min. and I was with my boyfriend and I said no because that’s stupid why would I go to her class when she’s acting like this? Im really getting annoyed with her. Please help!!
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Well, I don't think you're making things any better by not doing anything with her when she asks. Maybe at times, she just feels lonly now because she doesn't get as much time with you anymore, or as much as she used to. Don't be upset with her, just explain to her that you are really into this guy and that you wouldn't give up your friendship for him. I don't know exactly how shes acting about the situation, but you sound a little harsh on her. Have some times where you spend time with her and your boyfriend together. It wouldn't hurt.
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Well she probly feels yur replacing her with yur boyfriend, maybe u should try and hook her up with someone. But also make sure you spend time with yur best friend and show u still care.
friends before men
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I think that she is worried that if you spend all your time with your boyfriend then you will forget about her. I think her getting mad is her way of reminding you that she is still your friend whether you have a boyfriend. maybe she is protective of you and doesnt want you to get hurt. Maybe you are her best friend and you are hanging out with your boyfriend then who is she going to talk to. I just think that she is used to not having as much attention and she is acting that way to get it back. If you are patient and in a little time it may get better
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Here's the problem with guys and Friends. Boyfriends need and want all of your attention. But he has to understand that he can't have it all, just MOST of all of it. Your friend isn't being a very good friend. She has to be SO understanding. Give her an ultimatum, tell her ' you are my best friend and I love you, I'm not ignoring you, but if this relationship is going to work then we need to be here for each other, and I need to be here for him." if she doensn't understand tell her you'll give her time. If she needs you she should be able to call and you should jump for her, but she shoujldn't see this as losing her friend, she should see this as my friend is happy, and I'm SO happy for her! I"'m sorry, I wish you all the best.
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She's obviously jealous.
It appears to me you've been cutting out time with her for time with your boyfriend. That's really, really, a bad thing. I know things seem great with your boyfriend, but if you don't spend time here, and there with your friend she'll become disgruntled, and won't want to be your friend anymore.
My advice is to just see her when she'd like to occassionally. I'm not saying to give in every time. Just like those ten minutes you said though... Spend the ten minutes with her, and then go back to your boyfriend.
Look at it this way, let's imagine you don't have a boyfriend nor the experience of having, and then your good friend gets one, and chooses him over you every time... it's gonna hurt your feelings. It'll hurt everybody's feelings.
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