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how to know if being played
wondered if there are any advice on this topic. i don't mind players, as long as they don't play me... are there any signs to tell if a woman is looking for more than just (pretty shallow) fun?
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Yes..she wants to meet your mother and family,she wants you to meets hers, she makes "plans" for the future, she sometimes says things like "when I or when we get married" or "when I or we have kids I want...". I know women who are up front with a man and tell him, "Look, I just want to get mine and you can be my play thing" and it worked out for all invovled. Also, when she starts buying you clothes, paying your bills and such (unless she is paying you for sex and that it known up front) then she is looking for a return on her investment.
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Sure, there are signs, but lets be real, everyone wants to have fun. The best thing for those that start to see more in the relationship first, is to accept them,be there for that person and let them come to understand it too. Or, until you change your mind. Is it risky? You bet your a@# it is but what in life is worth having without some risk involved..later
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How about:
"Hi there pretty lady, are you looking for a fun roll in the hay or a deep emotional connection and long term relationship?"
Okay, it's not really that easy I know.
But in my experience most 'players' do tell the 'playee' that they are getting played. The 'playee' just refuses to hear it and instead just hears how much they love them and adore them and just aren't ready for that kinda relationship... and so on and so on.
The best way to spot a player is too keep your eyes and ears open. Listen to what they actually say and not just what you are hoping they will. If you hear something that concerns you, ask them to elaborate or explain.
Ask deep questions to a shallow person and they come up covered in mud.
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One way of telling is she always wants to be alone. Another sign is always feeling you up. If she talks about personal stuff liek sex all the time it is probably all she wants. Not all women are like that but most are. If she wants to go to the movies and wants to hang out then that is just wanting to have fun in the relationship.
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Can't look you in your eye, too many excuses, strange actions, not doing what they did in the beginning(although some guys just like to make you guess.)Those are some signs.
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Yeah, if she doesnt sexual with you a lot. If she acts like she cares, or remembers lil things that you say then she really cares about you. If she only remembers what you *ah hem* look like, then you might want to find someone new...
Hope it Helps!
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Melanie
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