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friend has sex all the time
ok i am 18 and i live with my sister (well freind who is so close she is practically a sister) and her fiance. now the two of them are always having sex. like she and i will be playing cards and he asks her to come upstairs. well she comes back like a half hour to an hour later and i knew they were having sex cuz i could hear them. there is no way to drown them out b/c i dont have a cd player and we dont have a tv. and they are so loud i can hear them throughout hte whole house and many times outside the house. it is kinda disturbing, because they go at it multiple times a day, and not even give a shit that i am in the house and am forced to listen to them b/c i don;t have anything else to do. what am i supposed to do? what can i do to block them out or how can i tell her that them having sex is so annoying for me to hear them all the time. its almost as if she is rubbing it in my face that she can have sex b/c i swear they are loud on purpose. and i am a virgin so it is like she is saying "haha i can have sex and you arent". am i reading into this wrong? how can i confront her aobut it? what should i say? please help me out. i am so sick of hearing them having sex.
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its totally understandable that you dont want to hear them have sex. and you arent reading to much into this. just.. tell them that you can hear them having sex and ask them if they could be a little quieter or just tell you that they need some alone time.. and when they tell you that they need some time alone, just, go to the mall or a movie or over to a friends house.
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Yes telling her that its annoying would be a good thing to do gosh..
you should just be like hey can you be more quieter or atleast respect that i live here too..
tell her how its very disturbing and really bothers you and makes you uncomfortable..
♥ Dez
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If that was me i would go up to my friend and say exactly what i felt. I would say that you both SHARE the house and that you don't enjoy when you have to hear them have sex. Also i would tell her that it is not fair to you to have to hear that and that its also not fair because you have nothing to drain the sound out. And i would also say that it is embarassing when you can hear them all the way outside. Hope this helped.
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I think it depends on how you guys came about living together. I think it's one thing if you lived with this girl, and then the fiance moved in after the fact. Or did they live together first, and you started to stay with them?
If he in fact is the later addition to the house, then you have the right as a 'roomate' to lay down the law about having a little respect for you around the house.
However, if they lived together first and then you came to stay with them, you in fact are the guest. While it shows a lack of decorum the fact they go hot and heavy at all hours, you are staying within their personal space and might be better off just to leave the situation.
Talk to your friend about it. If she gets defensive about the situation then perhaps you've overstayed your welcome and are better off to find a place of your own or with someone else.
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juss tell her its annoying! tell her that you are kinda sick of hearing them. maybe make soem freinds and spend hte tiem when they are at home out of hte house with your freinds?
the future mrs steven mark jones
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Maybe you should ask your friend for some "non sex" time. It is really annoying when you can hear their every moan, even if you weren't a virgin. Can you ask them to try to turn on some music or something in her room?
I would just find a way to hang out outdoors or something. You just can't concentrate when that happens, and since you guys don't have much else to do, you aren't going to get anywhere until you say something. Just try not to be mean about it.
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it seems to me your friend is obsessed or she's being used my her fiance. Does the guy seem nice? If he does then you probably dont need to worry about the saftey of your friend but you should tell her to be careful. As for you getting grossed out, you should tell your friend to stop or go somewhere else where you dont need to deal with it.
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