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my best friend introduced me to this new guy she just started to go out with. She talks about him constanly. In her eyes he could do no wrong. When I met him he seemed nice. But later on he started to flirt with me. he told me that he is using her to get closer to me. He says He is just with her because she has a good paying job and she takes him out to dinner and shopping. In other words he is a friend with benfits. When I told her about what he was up to. She accussed me of being a liar and stoped talking to me. She had been my best frien since the 7th grad we are in our 20's now. I miss her and hate that she is mad with me . how can I get her to see that I am not a liar?
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Hey,
Youve probaly been friends for awhile, so why does she think that you're a liar! So i'll tel you what i would do! I would go up and and say. Lets just it was me and my my best friend weve been friends for almost 2 years. I'll say hey! Hey why in the world do you think i would lie to you. we have been friends for almost 2 years so , and how long have you and your bf been toagether. why in the heck don't you trust me. The whole part about being friends is to share your secrets and trust each other, you say and do nice things for your best friend. And you're are loyal and repectiful to them, and if she innores you just say whats it going to take, okay so i guess we're not friends, if you can't just, cause thats what is all about. So you can have me or your bf or you can have both of us. Its your choice, so if don't let me know by tomorrow then i secpect that we're not friends anymore so i guees i see you soon, and when i do, i want an anwser. That what iu would do. Thats what you should do. Take my advice sercly
Candychick1
P.s. If she trys to say listen up you say no you listen, after i talkyou can, realy stick up for youself
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aww..ok what i would do is have a tape recorder and tape record what he says to you next time you and him are alone. like ask a question...so..how are you and (your friends name) doing? do you love her? questions like that will get him to repeat the same story he told you before. or..get it where shes listening in the other room and you talk to him while shes listening in the other room..or you can call him and have her listening..that sort of thing.
i hope your friend sees the truth soon..then her lesson willl be learned ..and she will never accuse yuo of such things again
i hope it all works out
-melissa-
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Two options. Either you can find some way to frame him (but be discreet and wise... if he sees what you are up 2 he can turn it around on you... and dont go to any extreme of looking incriminating... like as much as you want to frame him dont do anything like taking a picture of you and him kissing because well hopefully youll know thats just dumb). OR you can just wait. She needs some space and time to see what this guy is after and he'll blow his cover fast (he probably flirts with lots of people). Either way you'll probably have to wait. Unless you see them getting serious or if it lasts too long then you have to act fast. But in the end only she can make her own decisions. Just let her know where you stand on this, what you think, and most importantly that you are there for her. Whatever happens she will come to her senses and realize she doesn't want to loose her fest friend either. (And that her best friend since 7th grade wouldn't lie to her about some guy... mention that if she keeps thinking you are a liar) And when she does come broken hearted try not to say "i told you so". Just be supportive and give her space and be a friend (which it seems you already are a really good friend).
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Boy, he sounds like a loser.
People usually just don't want to hear the truth. Know what though? She did hear you.
She may be mad right now, but I'll bet she starts watching for signs of what you told her.
She probably thinks hes the greatest thing on earth right now. Hard to get through to someone in that state of mind. Hopefully she will soon wake up and see him for what he is.
For now, all you can do is wait. When she wakes up she will be back. If she doesn't, I guess you at least tried. I'm afraid she is in for heartbreak sometime real soon. :)
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