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Death.
My cousin's best friend recently just died about 4 days ago. She's having a rough time because they grew up together and were extremely close. I don't know what to do, besides be there for her. It's kind of hard when she lives in Boston, though. Anyway, since she's having a rough time she got back into heavy drugs and began to cut herself, again. I'm trying to make her realize that she has to stop all this and face the fact that he's died and try to move on.. without having to cut/do drugs just to get her happy. I'm trying to get her to remind the good times they shared, but it's not working. What should I do with this problem? Any ideas?
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It's very difficult to lose a close friend, it's one of the worst things a person can go through. There's usually a lot of anger, "How could X do this to me?" or, "What did I do to let X down? Why couldn't I stop it? Why wasn't it me?"
Nobody likes being told that they're wrong, even if they know they are. Griping at your cousin for your decisions probably won't make her feel any better.
However, if you could let her know that it's OKAY to be upset, that this friend wouldn't want her to ruin her life, and that you do care and she does have a lot to live for.
It takes some time to heal from things like that, but it's important to let her know doing more damage isn't going to solve anything.
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Well, I'll start out by saying that I am hoping you really aren't telling her that she needs to face the fact that her best friend is gone, because when you lose someone, they still won't understand or be able to face any facts 4 days after a death. I know you're just trying to comfort her, but what really needs to happen is, that you need to tell her parents or yours what shes turning to, to cope. The drugs, and the cutting. I know that you think your cousin will never forgive you if you told anyone, but this will really effect her life if she continues on down this path. Thats the only way she'll ever stop at this point. No person will be able to convince her to stop. She needs professional help, and if you really wanted her to be ok, then you'd tell someone about her bad ways of coping. Right now, her parents, or her guardian are probably scared and want to know what her thoughts are, and shes probably not willing to share or say so, but they need to know what shes doing at least. Maybe you shouln't remind her of the good times her and her best friend had quite yet. Its probably a little too early to remind her. Please tell her parents or yours, if you need help with this, just send me an inbox, I really would like to help.
-TheTeenGirl
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